(Closed) Buying yourself a ring?!

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

I did this back in the day. I had been waiting for two years, and I finally broke it off with BF. I went out and bought a peridot and diamond halo ring. It was a nice symbolic thing to do for myself, and I felt good knowing that even though he didnt propose, I could still wear diamonds. πŸ˜€

I don’t think he would be weirded out by this. It’s just jewelry. Now, if you bought yourself a diamond solitaire and wore it on your left hand, it might be a little different.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@EffieTrinket:  Agreed. You’re not buying yourself an engagement ring.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I say buy it, he will propose when he is ready too and that will have nothing to do with the ring you bought yourself.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

That’s not odd at all, I wear soooo many rings! Not just costume jewelry either, but often the real thing…gifts from family over the years, or that I bought myself. I can’t imagine why a RHR would signify that you “don’t need” an engagement ring πŸ˜‰

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2005

Marrying someone isn’t about the ring so there’s no ‘well that ring should satisfy her for now’ mentality there.  If you like the ring, get it!  I bought myself plenty of jewelry when my man and I were dating and I never made a connection towards what I bought pushing back the proposal, neither did my huband (boytoy at the time).  There is no dilema, you want a ring that you like and you should get it.  You want a gemstone engagement ring, he should get it.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@OneDayaSchafer:  go for it. if your bf thinks you’re satisfied with a ring and puts off proposing because of it you guys have bigger issues to deal with. After all, a proposal is not just about getting a pretty ring – that’s the added bonus.  

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I bought myself rings all the time when I was “waiting” – I don’t think my bf ever really noticed.  If he did, he certainly didn’t connect it with an engagement ring or lack thereof!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@OneDayaSchafer:  buy it. then there will be something in your ring size (or very close to it, since you’re wearing it on your right hand, right???) lying around the house in case he ever needs that information πŸ™‚

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I bought myself an expensive (well at the time I thought it was expensive!) RHR when I was waiting for a proposal. It didn’t look like an e-ring though. DH thought it was a pretzel -_-

 

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I think you should go for it! Wait until after New Years to wear it, but I would keep it even if he does propose. You can maybe wait a while until the new-ness of your e-ring wears off, but you can still have/buy things for yourself even when you are engaged! If you love it, get it for yourself πŸ™‚ 

Good luck on the Holiday engagement, though! 

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