Post # 1
I am currently 27 and lately, my friends (and I’ll admit – me too) have been murmuring phrases like “Well we he better at least propose before I’m 30” or “I need to be married by 30”,etc.
Has 30 ever been a significant number or marker for you?
I’m not sure why but I hear a lot of women put a certain importance (and almost urgency) on trying to achieve all sorts of things before that particular age.
Thoughts? If you are under 30, do you feel this way? If you are over 30, did you feel this way at some point?
Post # 3
For some reason 30 has never bothered me (I’ll be 29 next month), but 35 scares the hell out of me! I don’t have any “before I’m 30” things but I do have “before I’m 35” goals.
Post # 4
I want to be married and have a baby by the time I’m married. I just turned 27 last month and got married…..recently got off BC so we’ll see!!
Post # 5
Not really. The only thing I want to accomplish by 30 is make 6 figures.
Post # 6
I wanted to be engaged by 30. 😉
Post # 7
For getting married…When I was dating the exes, it was on my mind a lot but when I was dating DH, it didn’t bother me at all. I knew that he was the one I wanted to spend the rest of my life with and he’ll propose when he is ready.
For having kids before 30…I’m probably going to have kids after 30 and it’s a-ok with me and DH.
Post # 8
25 really sucked for me. I am dreading 30 a bit (I’m 28) but I don’t think it’ll be that bad. I think for me it has more to do with how my life is in order more than anything. The big 3-0 sounds scary, but I’ll likely be married, hopefully we’ll be either close to moving to our new country, or there already… etc. When I was 25 I was newly single, not making great money, in debt… it just wasn’t what I expected of myself at that age. At 30 I should be MUCH more stable, since I am a lot more stable now.
Post # 9
I think a lot of women look at doctor advice about children and look at 30 as the magic number. Once you hit 30 complications come in and such things.
I had both of my children by the age of 23, and was divorced by 25. Here it is 10 years later, and I’m looking at starting an entirely new family at 35. It’s odd.
I don’t really have goals, just be happy and comfortable in life. 🙂
Post # 10
I was married and had my first child by 25. I wanted to be done having kids by the time I turned 30. My DD was born 8 days before I turned 30. I wanted to still be “young” by the time they grew up and moved out. Now, I’m turning 40 this year (I divorced at age 34). I don’t regret having kids before 30, but I certainly can’t fault people for waiting later in life.
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I am turning 30 in December and a lot of my friends turned 30 the last year or two (or in the next year or two.) The men seem to be okay with it but the women get a little crazy, especially if they aren’t engaged or married (or divorced like myself.)
I think it’s because at 30 you really have to consider yourself to be an adult and many women expect to have a great job, be married, own a house, and have children by the age of 30 to “prove” their adult-ness. It doesn’t help that it is drilled into us that having children after 30 can be more difficult and even cause major birth defects starting at 35.
Post # 12
I would like to be married by the time I’m 30. Simply because we want a couple of kids, and I’d like to be done having kids by the time I’m 35, whilst still leaving a decent gap between them (no Irish twins for me!). And I don’t want to have any more kids before being married (I have one from a precious relationship). No judgements – it’s just important to me to have that of commitment first, given how it turned out before.
As I’m 27 at the moment, I think it’s not unachievable!
Post # 13
I had said I wanted to be married by the time was 27 and have a child by age of 30. Yeah that didn’t happen. Got married at 37 and a baby at 37…
Post # 14
I’ll be 30 next November. I am happy I’m married, but I’ve marked 30 as “I’d at least like to be pregnant by the time I’m 30…”
Post # 15
I’m 30. Thought I’d be married by now, but hey, whatcha gonna do? Life is gonna happen as it happens. Married at 31 sounds just fine to me. 🙂
IMO 30 isn’t so scary…but I think I might have trouble with it when I turn 40 or 50.
Post # 16
I never thought about it until I met my bf lol I was bouncing merrily along not even realizing I was in my late 20s (turned 28 last month). I was getting my life together, job, money, house, etc and once I met him last year and we began to date seriously, things like marriage, kids, etc came onto my radar so now I’m kind of wondering if I need to start setting some other “life marks.” 30 used to seem so far away and now that it’s right around the corner, I’d like to be married before then. I’d like to wait a bit for children but I want to be finished having them by 35 for sure.