Post # 1
Just for anyone out there who might be keeping up, there isn’t going to be a wedding.
At least, not yet. And not with FI. (Welll, ex-FI now, I guess.) FI and I broke up several months ago, during a fight. We took some time to think about it, and realized that it really was what we wanted to do. We weren’t being good to one another any more, and we really didn’t work as anything but friends. Most surprising was the realization, once we were both honest with each other and had nothing else to lose, that it had actually been over even a few months before that. All the depression we had been experiencing and fighting we had been doing wasnt the stress of the wedding planning. It was coming from the fact that we had both known for a little while, in the back of our heads, that there wasn’t going to be a wedding at all.
It’s always scary to come to someplace like the ‘Bee, where everyone is really happy and everything is working out, and say you couldn’t make a go of it. I know it’s probably not what anyone wants to hear.
But I felt silly continuing on like there was still going to be a wedding. I wanted to be honest with you guys.
I had actually planned to take a little longer a break, but a month and a half ago I started seeing someone I have known for a long time. The other day he mentioned that, though it was crazy soon, he couldn’t shake the feelig that he was pretty sure he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me.
We aren’t going to be hasty, not by any means. It’s too soon to get married, and if he proposed tomorrow, I’d be the first one to say, “How about we give it a few more months?” But still I believe that qualifies me to be a Waiting Bee again, no? 😀 I missed you guys.
Post # 3
Welcome back! I’m sorry it didn’t work out with your ex-FI but I’m glad you made the right decision and got out when you did. Good luck with the new guy!
Post # 4
((((Hugs)))) to you.
I’m glad you and your ex were able to figure out that you weren’t right for one another and move on before the wedding.
Also, congratulations on finding someone else. Take is slow, enjoy the newness.
All the best of luck to you in what you have in front of you.
Glad to see you back.
Post # 5
As cliche as it sounds, everything happens for a reason. Best of luck on your new beginning!
Post # 6
I’m sorry about your break up with ex-FI but congrats on your new relationship! That’s exciting!
Post # 7
hugs, I am sorry to hear it didnt work out but I give you both some major credit for being honest with yourselves and avoided making a big mistake. As well as sharing this with the hive, relationships aren’t always perfect, and sometimes they don’t have a storybook ending, but you can, and you will move on.
Enjoy this new time with your new guy, and take things one step at a time.
Post # 7
Better now than after being married for 6 1/2 years and waking up one morning and going, “WTF did I DO!?” (Been there, done that, not bitter at *all*…) 😉
Post # 8
I’m actually going to say congratulations on your break up! Sounds like you did the right thing and I’m excited for your future 🙂
Post # 9
Sorry about the break up but congrats on the new relationship!
Post # 10
Im sorry about your previous relationship, but Im happy that you are in a new one now.. You seem like your in a good place.
Post # 11
sorry about your breakup but at least you were both honest with eachother, and you are in a better place 🙂
Post # 12
Welcome back! I am so glad for you that you and your ex-FI had the balls to face things head on and admit the truth to yourselves and each other. I have seen it before in some of my close friendships and it always amazes me how powerful and life changing the truth can be!
Post # 13
@MissTatas: Yeah…when someone suggests to a single friend who they should date/marry, it’s always the opposite-sex best friend (assuming they’re straight). But really, some best friends just shouldn’t get married. It wrecks up the friendship something awful, and if you were only together because you were such good friends and you both wanted to get married…what do you have left then? We are still talking, and it’s a lot more peaceful now.
And things are truly amazing with new boyfriend. Even if it doesn’t ultimately work out, (it’s still too soon to say for sure) it sure has been fun while it’s lasted!
Post # 14
Nice to see you around again! Sorry about the ex, but yay for new relationships!
Post # 15
If I had found weddingbee just a few months earlier, I could have been in the same sitch… posting about waiting for one guy, the breakup, and subsequently meeting the ACTUAL “one” just a few months later. Congratulations, and cheers to new beginnings 😉