"By the way, we'll be collecting $90 from everyone now" WTF etiquette?!

posted 2 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
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6048 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I hope Grooms Dad doesn’t demand gifts before entering the wedding to make sure everyone pony’d up.  Some people are ridiculous.  It is nice that they paid for the rest of the things, but that 90.00 is kinda steep for a bus.  We rented a bus for a friends bacheolorette party and it was 20.00.  If I wasn’t in the wedding and it’s not to late, I’d probably bail on the bachorlorette

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

ChicoryCreek:  Goodness there are a lot of Bees dealing with ridiculous people today! You’re right-it would have been one thing to mention splitting the cost of the bus a few weeks ago. That would have given people time to accept/decline and budget money, but to demand is just plain rude. Also, it’s so in poor taste to hint at gifts you would like. Gifts are just that-gifts. It’s never a requirement. This is bitchy and passive agressive but I would just give a card after a rude hint like that. 

ETA: Hell ya $90 is a lot to some people. I’d be pissed if I had to turn that over unexpectedly!

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 5 months ago by  KatiePi.
Post # 5
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1236 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

The random “Hope you had fun! That’ll be $90 plus tip if you don’t want to walk home” announcement is a jerk move. Costs (all of them) should be discussed up front, so anyone who wants/needs to bow out may do so. Also, I think asking for cash and/or asking for people to pay for your honeymoon is brain-meltingly tacky, but I very much may be in the minority on that one.

Either way, sorry you and your BF had to deal with that!

Post # 7
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69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I’m glad that you were upset over it being sprung on you rather than the cost in general! That’s such a bad move to demand the money without there being a mention of it previously. <br /><br />My FI and I are in the midst of organising a bachelor and bachelorette party for this coming weekend and we had to invite everyone with the understanding that they would pay their own way (with each activity being voluntary and the main night only costing whatever they choose to spend on food and drink!). As much as we would love to host everyone, we’re both full time students so that idea went down quickly. 

Post # 8
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253 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

ChicoryCreek:  I hate when people pull stunts like that.

people are tacky sometimes when it comes to weddings. Asking for money and all that. I don’t know when that became acceptable in peoples’ minds.

Post # 9
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3707 posts
Sugar bee

<br />ChicoryCreek:  There’s a “Super Moon” tonight. I guess it’s worse than a full moon. And we know where they got the words lunacy and lunatic.

Post # 10
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260 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

ChicoryCreek:  While the day overall sounds great, and it seems like people were generous to contribute to some of this… totally not OK to just spring that on everyone.  I’m the kind of person who NEVER carries cash, so that would just put me in a jam if I were dealing with this.  They probably did it because they knew if after saying the dad would take care ofthings, if they took that back, people wouldn’t come.  Sounds like they took advantage- that totally stinks!

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