Post # 1
My boyfriend is currently at a bachelor party for his good friend. The group planned on going to a baseball game, out to dinner, and then to a comedy club. This was originally set up a few weeks ago via text from the groom’s uncle and explicity said “Mr Groomsdad will be generously footing the bill” and then gave itinerary.
Today, everyone arrived at the groom’s home to a party bus set to take all the boys to their destinations all day. And the groom’s uncle suddenly demanded *$90* from everyone to help pay for the bus!!
Asking people to pay for things isnt whats totally outrageous–it was the fashion of springing it on them like that. He texted me telling me and I was in shock.
We’re also feeling admittedly grumbly because between what I spent on gifts for the bridal shower, his sudden party bus admission price, boarding our dog overnight the night of the wedding, the hotel room, and giving them a wedding gift, we’re going to be spending $500 on this wedding–and neither of us are even in the bridal or groomsmen parties!
The groom also not so subtly told my BF IF WE WERE TO GIVE A WEDDING GIFT, they would totally love some cash to spend on cool excursions while on their honeymoon.
Post # 2
I hope Grooms Dad doesn’t demand gifts before entering the wedding to make sure everyone pony’d up. Some people are ridiculous. It is nice that they paid for the rest of the things, but that 90.00 is kinda steep for a bus. We rented a bus for a friends bacheolorette party and it was 20.00. If I wasn’t in the wedding and it’s not to late, I’d probably bail on the bachorlorette
Post # 3
HisIrishPrincess: Its seriously awesome that everything else was paid for, but suddenly announcing (demanding) $90 is due with no warning is just totally unacceptable tome.
Thats also a lot of money for some people.
Post # 4
ChicoryCreek: Goodness there are a lot of Bees dealing with ridiculous people today! You’re right-it would have been one thing to mention splitting the cost of the bus a few weeks ago. That would have given people time to accept/decline and budget money, but to demand is just plain rude. Also, it’s so in poor taste to hint at gifts you would like. Gifts are just that-gifts. It’s never a requirement. This is bitchy and passive agressive but I would just give a card after a rude hint like that.
ETA: Hell ya $90 is a lot to some people. I’d be pissed if I had to turn that over unexpectedly!
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
The random “Hope you had fun! That’ll be $90 plus tip if you don’t want to walk home” announcement is a jerk move. Costs (all of them) should be discussed up front, so anyone who wants/needs to bow out may do so. Also, I think asking for cash and/or asking for people to pay for your honeymoon is brain-meltingly tacky, but I very much may be in the minority on that one.
Either way, sorry you and your BF had to deal with that!
Post # 6
KatiePi: I also did notice a huge amount of posts today about people being nutty. Are the stars misaligned or something? 😉
Post # 7
I’m glad that you were upset over it being sprung on you rather than the cost in general! That’s such a bad move to demand the money without there being a mention of it previously. <br /><br />My FI and I are in the midst of organising a bachelor and bachelorette party for this coming weekend and we had to invite everyone with the understanding that they would pay their own way (with each activity being voluntary and the main night only costing whatever they choose to spend on food and drink!). As much as we would love to host everyone, we’re both full time students so that idea went down quickly.
Post # 8
ChicoryCreek: I hate when people pull stunts like that.
people are tacky sometimes when it comes to weddings. Asking for money and all that. I don’t know when that became acceptable in peoples’ minds.
Post # 9
<br />ChicoryCreek: There’s a “Super Moon” tonight. I guess it’s worse than a full moon. And we know where they got the words lunacy and lunatic.
Post # 10
ChicoryCreek: While the day overall sounds great, and it seems like people were generous to contribute to some of this… totally not OK to just spring that on everyone. I’m the kind of person who NEVER carries cash, so that would just put me in a jam if I were dealing with this. They probably did it because they knew if after saying the dad would take care ofthings, if they took that back, people wouldn’t come. Sounds like they took advantage- that totally stinks!