Post # 1
My FH and I are having around 500 guests that drink alot and many different things. We are thinking about doing a BYOB for the reception with kegs and win available until there gone. Our reception is in a barn, so there are no rules for having to have a bar or not being allowed to bring in your own beverages, Is that too tacky?
Post # 3
I think it’s a little different……I would opt for a cash bar over a BYOB. I know in Ontario if the barn isn’t commercial then you aren’t allowed to sell on it, you can only serve (open bar). I’m not sure what the rules are like in South Dakota.
Post # 4
Hm. Well one of my concerns would be that it would be kind of chaotic logistically. Would people be sitting with their booze in their lap during the ceremony? Where would they put everything at the reception? Also, if people are doing their own pouring, they may get more sloshed than they might if a bartender was in charge. Do you have a plan for getting your guests home safely if they over-imbibe?
Post # 5
I wouldn’t be worried about the tackiness as much as I would be worried about the total chaos. Five hundred is a LOT of people. What do you do when someone starts lugging in a keg or people start getting out of control? If you can’t afford to provide enough alcohol to be sufficient for guests, I would suggest maybe having a cash bar available.
Post # 6
Are you getting married in a barn on your own property?
If not, I would imagine your state/municipality does have some rules about liquor service.
I work with approving liquor licenses, and while I live in a place that’s known for being particularly strict, you probably have some rules/liability issues as well.
An example from our area is that if you host a party, you can be sued if someone leaves drunk and is unable to take care of themselves or causes an accident drinking and driving.
Having a bartender who’s well versed in serving alcohol, and cutting people off can go a long way to showing that you took the necessary steps to prevent any problems.
Post # 7
It’s not something that I would do. I would suggest offering a cash bar over a BYOB reception. I have a feeling the whole thing can get very messy, especially with 500 guests.
Post # 8
I’d look into the laws in your area before making any definite plans. There may be restrictions on that sort of thing. Try checking with your town, township, or municipality.
Post # 10
my first thought was responsible serving of alchohol – 500 people is mayhem to be able to ensure that no one leaves over the limit and as the host and provider of the booze i feel you have a responsiblity for that not to happen
plus underage drinking also needs to be considered
Post # 11
I think you should just stick to serving beer and wine. You are lucky your venue allows keg beer and wine can be found really cheap so thats great.
I think BYOB is too hard. You would still have to provide glasses, mixers, etc. Plus it kinda puts a weird vibe on the wedding.
Post # 12
@bells:it’s bring your own booze.
not appropriate for a wedding!
Post # 13
I think it’d be very difficult to do – would people be parking their bottles on the table, in the middle of the food & flowers etc? Could get fierce messy. If a cash bar is at all common in your area, I’d definitely go with that instead. Or see if there’s any way you can cut that guest list, 500 is nuts!
Post # 14
I know 500 is nuts.. that very normal for my family. We’re at 200 with 3 more pregnat (and that’s just grandma, her kids, grandkids, and great grandkids). My uncles normally bring there own alcohol to all family functions and in the state of South Dakota, it is legal for 18 year olds to drink with there parents, and we do have transportation set up to go from the reception site to the hotel. I have looked into having a cash bar, but we would have to buy a liquor liscense and that is a huge hassle around here. I just don’t know what to do….
Post # 15
The question is really if it would be appropriate in your own social circle. It sounds like BYOB is common in your family. If your guests wouldn’t bat an eye, then it’s not really a social issue.
A couple kegs aren’t that expensive, so you could provide maybe the first drink for everyone, just in case some people don’t bring anything.
Post # 16
I hate to admit this but my brother had friends that BYOB. His wedding was at my fathers bf’s ranch and I was floored! They rolled in with coolers! With 500 people that will be chaotic. Maybe a bottle of liquor but not 12pks. BTW his friends were very intoxicated. I would rather run out of liquor than a bunch of drunks.