Post # 1
okkk,… So, my husband (we had a civil wedding already) and I are trying to plan a beautiful elegant wedding. The problem is elegant comes at a high price, and that doesn’t help when we have set a low budget and a guest list of 150 (that’s as much as I can cut it). We are paying for everything ourselves. I want to have my dream wedding; Beautiful Dress Blue by Enzoani Croatia, beautiful church Saint Mary of the Angels Chicago, venue The Armour House Lake Forest IL, and music all night long. I know when budgeting you need to consider what is most important and those are it for my husband and I. The wedding flowers I will do myself, I have done them before for a friend’s wedding so I know how to do it. Ceremony music, the church organist. Reception Music i-pod, why should I pay for a dj when I have all the technology at my fingertips? Food is not our biggest priority. The venue alone takes up most of the budget so there’s no money left over for food. I have done a lot of research on budget weddings, and I know a lot of caucasions have punch and cake receptions. What’s a wedding without cake? We are considering having a cake and champaign reception but we don’t know if it is a good idea since I have a traditional Mexican family and my husband’s family is from Spain. I don’t know how they are going to take it.
We don’t want to go over our budget because we think it is ridiculous to spend thousands upon thousands fo dollars on a wedding, when it could be used as a downpayment on a house or paying down our school loans.
Sorry about the long post, what do you guys think?
Post # 3
all night long
although i have nothing against a cake reception, i cannot imagine only cake and champagne keeping your guests satisfied all night long – people will leave early or sneak out to the carpark to order a pizza.
my family is european and hubbys is mediterranean – cake and punch would not go down well at all, people expect to be fed plus they will gossip about it for years to come (dont know about your folks but our parents would be embarrassed). what about serving heavy h’orderves at the min
Post # 4
@eloping: <<< what she said!
I don’t really think you can have a traditional reception except for the food! A cake and punch reception is normally held straight after the ceremony and usually only goes for a few hours.
Post # 5
These are the reasons my fiance and I decided to do a brunch wedding (elegant but cost effective). The venue is very beautiful and elegant but the cost of food for brunch is way less than a dinner. Plus the site fee and food/beverage minimums for a day wedding instead of an evening are also much more affordable for us. If you are not opposed to a day wedding, I would recommend looking into a brunch.
Post # 6
I agree with PPs – there’s no way that just cake and champagne will satisfy your guests. Plus, with lots of drinking on a fairly empty stomach, emans you’re going to have guests starting to get intoxicated much quicker. I’ve honestly never been to a “cake only” reception – when I go to a wedding, I expect a full meal, or at the very least, heavy appetizers.
Unless you clearly state that it’s a dessert reception, and you offer things other than cake, I don’t see this going over well, sorry.
Post # 7
A cake and champagne or punch reception is fine… if it is held at a non-meal time.
If you decide to go this route, your ceremony should be either late enough so people will have already had dinner, or early enough so that guests will have just had breakfast or lunch.
Honestly, if I came to a reception that ONLY had cake and alcohol, I wouldn’t stay very long. Cake and booze do not sit well in my stomach just the two of them, and my guess is a lot of people are like that.
Post # 8
Cake and champagne can work if the timing is right – it’s perfect for a short and sweet mid-afternoon reception. Ideally, it would start at 2 PMish and last until 4 or 5, putting you squarely in between-meal territory.
But if you want the standard 4-5 hour long evening reception with dancing and all the pageantry (special dances, bouquet toss, cake cutting), you will need more substantial food. There is no polite way to host a party that spans a mealtime without providing a meal. People will leave when they get hungry for dinner, and possibly think you are being cheap and gift-grabby by inviting so many guests that you could not afford to properly host.
Post # 9
Thank you for all your responses, and to tell you the truth I like the idea of a brunch wedding reception that way we can enjoy the beautiful venue 🙂
Whether I decide on a brunch or dessert reception, I know I will definitely include that on the invite. I don’t want any confusion for my guests.
and about the “gift-grabby” I don’t believe in wedding showers. We are not going to beg others to pay for our household items.
We are going to offer my guests what we can, and I am not expecting anything in return except for their best wishes and their company on our special day.