Post # 1
So, I just got engaged this past weekend. We were very excited to finally get on with it. We’d planned on being engaged awhile back but I had to leave the country to do some research (I’m a doc student) and it was required I be in another place. We haven’t set an exact date yet as we’re in the middle of moving and my parents and I are currently not even in the state (so we can’t talk budget for another few weeks), etc. but I am already freaking out about things. I hate having to plan a party if I can’t control all of the food let alone a wedding.
I have a tree nut, peanut, and shellfish allergy. I have a hard time finding restaurants that can accomodate me in this podunk town of 100,000 where we currently reside and I think this is where we will be having a wedding. Food I know will be easier than a cake but a cake has been the only thing I have ever had any sort of “since I was a little girl” thoughts about. I am not your typical bride. I think my fiance is actually more jazzed about a lot of the smaller details and will plan a great deal of this for me no problem. The things I care about are food, photography and dress. Everything else for me is pretty negotiable. We have talked to a baker who is a friend of my FI’s but she runs a BIG cake shop and while she can deal with gluten free, she told us she can’t handle a nut allergy.
Any tips to finding “safe” catering and/or cakes? I do NOT want to go the route of cupcakes. I am in no way a big fan of cupcakes. I find them difficult to eat, they have too much frosting, and I’m a big cake snob and never too pleased with them. I just want a regular wedding cake that isn’t hideous and won’t kill me. Is this just a pipe dream?
Post # 2
You need to contact your local bakeries and see if they can accomodate your allergies. The same for caterers. A city of 100,000 is not exactly a podunk town. There should be a couple of options available for you if you sniff them out.
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2015 - City Winery New York, NY
I have a tree-nut allergy. If you look at the paperwork my bakery has, it is hilarious! Our consultant has written in huge red letters EVERYWHERE that I have a tree-nut allergy.
My bakery is sectioning off part of the kitchen and assigning specific tools that can be used for my cake only. The entire facility is not nut-free, but the area where my cake is being made and decorated will be cleaned and kept nut-free during the duration of them creating the cake.
Perhaps you could suggest that to your friend who owns the bakery. Our bakery didn’t think twice about doing it and they were the ones who suggested it to us.
Good luck and stay safe!! Congratulations!
Post # 4
My brother has a very severe peanut allergy. Big chain bakeries can’t accomodate for him (they all put “may contain peanuts” or “manufactred in a facility that also processes peanuts”…he cant have any sort of cross contaimination), but local bakeries have always been more than accomodating and extrememly helpful. Does the tree nut aspect add a lot to the picture?
Is it just that you can’t have peanuts and tree nuts, or can there be no cross contaimination?
Post # 5
I have a gluten allergy as well as other food allergies (crab, walnuts, the list goes on and on) and we had no problem with the food for our wedding. It seems odd to me that your baker can handle a gluten allergy but not a nut allergy. Our entire wedding cake was made according to my allergies as well as my plate of food, but we had “regular” food for everyone else, and our dessert bar was not allergy-friendly either. I would continue to call around to other bakeries (maybe in other towns as well?) to see what they can do. One thing I wouldn’t negotiate on was food so I understand your frustration. Good luck, my dear.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2014 - Kukahiko Estate
surlygirl: How severe is your allergy? I ask because I also have a tree nut allergy, but it is not severe and I don’t really need to avoid cross contamination. Things that say, “processed in a facility that also processes tree nuts” are actually safe enough for me to eat. I just can’t eat anything with tree nuts actually in it as an ingredient.
If you are the same, I would guess many bakeries could accomodate you but just not using nuts / peanuts.
Like pp have said, they should be able to set up a “nut-free zone” to bake your cake.
Post # 7
I can’t have anything with a “may contain” on it and am picky about the type of “shared facility” labels I accept. That said, I have never reacted to a “shared facility” product but I am very, very dilligent about the foods I eat because I have had reactions eating out. My reaction is usually pretty severe – inability to breathe and vomiting. So, yeah, I have to be very careful and the only places I eat cakes, cookies, etc. is at nut free bakeries or home because while they may bake separately, the display area is always shared. Where we live, there aren’t any for 3+ hours in any direction, so having them do our cake is not an option.<br /><br />And while the town itsself is not tiny (it’s still small by my Chicago metro area standards), it’s got nothing surrounding. FI’s friend is actually in an adjoining town. We are always surprised by the rude remarks we get here from people in the food industry as opposed to in other places when we travel (minus the south where I don’t think I could ever survive). It’s a mess.<br /><br />Thanks for the encouragement. I think it’s back to calling places when we start planning in earnest. I am hoping we can find SOMEONE. The catering place that did my friend’s wedding (which was about 2.5 hours away and not an option) did a great job.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2014 - Cadillac mountain
Do you have any baker friends/family? What about someone smaller that just makes cakes as a side business? I feel like local small places are going to be your best bet. I have some severe difficult to manage food allergies (corn, oats, ect) and ended up deciding to have my mom make my cake and actually all the food. She’s a pastry chef so I lucked out, but it was the only way I felt safe. I feel like cross contamination will be a huge concern in any halfway decent sized bakery because of the number of cakes they are trying to make.
Post # 9
No, I don’t. *I* am the baker and while I love to bake and know how to make a pretty fancy cake, it would be a recipe for disaster doing that the day of my wedding. We ended up changing our location significantly (moving it back to where I did my undergrad for a destination wedding) and had significantly more luck finding a baker and caterer team there. They deal with allergies very well and feel comfortable accomodating me.
This area is just a suck for all things allergy, apparently!