Cake and punch AM reception – How to get ppl to mingle?

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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6032 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

You’re holding your gathering right over lunch time. People will leave if there’s no lunch served. They’ll be hungry! If you want them to mingle and have a good time, feed them!

Post # 5
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6032 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

People mingle when there are sit-down meals all the time. Just make sure you alow enough time for both. Would you rather have them leave, or not mingle? Also why would you throw a second event if you had budget rather than just up scaling the event you already have planned? Serving a three course dinner at 7pm is not going to make people any less hungry at noon when you’re only giving them cake. Why not just take the budget you’d spend at night and do a proper luncheon?

Post # 7
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6510 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would rather be served lunch over lunch time than be forced to mingle while hungry.

I think if you’re only providing cake and punch that people are more likely to leave right after eating the cake in search of some real food and there will be no mingling. If you serve the lunch people can mingle at their table while eating their lunch.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

I don’t think you can force people to mingle.  Some are good at small talk and will work the room.  Others are not and will stick closer to those they know.  

Are you thinking of an open room with no/few tables and people walking around mingling like a cocktail party?  That would not be my preference, I prefer to have a seat available.    If you do a stand up style reception, I’d end up searching out those I kind of already know, saying a quick hi, and depending on how painful my shoes were, I might slip out early. 

If I’m at a table with people I’m at least acquainted with, I’ll stay and chat. 

Post # 11
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6032 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

If you serve a meal and want to encourage mingling, then arrange your tables in a way that makes conversation easy. Some big tables (10+ people) where larger social groups can form, some smaller tables for people who need more space or prefer to be watchers rather tHan do-ers. Get some “ice breaker” cards for guests to read. They are instant conversation starters and only $20 or so a for a box of 100+ on amazon. Have an interactive food choice like a chocolate fountain (they’re a bit out of style these days but many people still like them) or a BBQ grill where the chef is visible. You are not allowing enough time to hold proper games like lawn darts but you can still build in enough chances for people to socialize and feed them at the same time.

if you are only doing cake at lunch time and it’s only 90 minutes, I think most people will leave unfortunately.

Post # 12
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528 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Columbia, SC

AnnaVictoria:  We are having a 10am ceremony and serving brunch. We went back and forth on desserts, just cake and punch and BBQ, but ultimately decided on the 10am time and brunch.

Our menu will be a variety of breakfast and lunch options. I have not decided on a specific menu yet. 

Post # 15
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6032 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

That’s still not lunch though.  If your event were at, say, 3pm that would be a perfect spread but your event is smack right across lunchtime and it’s not fair on the guests to not give them an actual lunch. Cheese and crackers and cake ain’t lunch.

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