Post # 1
So…my dilemma is that our reception location does not offer cake cutting or serving…not even for a charge! I could not believe it! Therefore I need to put a couple people in charge of cutting the cake. However our wedding will be about 250 people…is it okay to ask someone close to me (like my aunts) to cut the cake and is it also okay to have people only come and get cake if they want some? Does it cheapen the whole concept???
Post # 3
Serve cupcakes instead! Then guests can come get their own. And you can get a little cake to cut for yourselves.
I think it’s ridiculous they can’t have someone cut the cake! I’ve been to a few weddings where cake is cut and laid out on a table and the DJ lets everyone know that it’s there if they want it. Sometimes it has been served to me, but I prefer to pick out my own slice…especially if there are different flavors!
If you don’t want to do cupcakes, I’d say it’s perfectly ok to ask a nice aunt if she wouldn’t mind cutting your cake for you. Who else would do it anyways?! It’ll take some time, but you’re kind of out of luck otherwise.
Post # 4
I’m not the about the most etiquette savvy person, but if you had aunts like mine, who are super willng to help, and it wouldn’t phase a single person at our reception…I would ask aunts or friends to all help out!
It might even be fun to do a little cake cutting and serving yourselves…bring cake to the tables and then visit for a minute or two!
Have you asked your venue what previous couples with cakes have done in the past?
Post # 5
I asked the reception manager and she says usually families find relatives to cut the cake…I have an awesome family to ask, I just don’t want it to look like I didn’t care enough to pay to have it done…but it’s not even an option!
Post # 6
I don’t know what the rules technically are, but I know if I were in your situation, I’d ask some of my aunts & they’d probably be totally jazzed to help.
Post # 7
I think you’ll be fine! Just ask your aunts to brush up on how to cut a cake. I went to a wedding where the people didn’t know how and demolished the sucker so only like half of the people got a piece.
* Hint: They have to take apart each layer to cut as the supports will get in the way.
Post # 8
I was asked to cut a cake once at a wedding as an "honor" and it was such a messy job that I would avoid asking other people. With that said, I also have a bunch of aunts who keep asking what they can do to help, so I know none of them would be offended. We’re avoiding the cake cutting fee by having cupcakes.
Post # 9
Grrr cake cutting fee! We tried that with our venue and they were still charging us a "fee" for the china. So we gave up and had the cake.
I’d be tempted to lick my fingers as I go while cutting though…just like at home! haha gross I know.
Post # 10
My sister was marreid at her church and had her reception in the hall we did everything ourselves. My friend and I ended up cutting the cakes and passing out plates. Noone on our side of the family said anything. My sisters mother in-law turned up her nose at us though. She thought we should have paid someone to do it for us. We are of the school of if we can do it ourselves why pay someone else to do it for us. Oh well! It was messy, but we had a few damp paper towels on hand to wipe the knive after each slice. She had sheet cakes and a 3 tier.