Post # 1
So I know it’s common for the newlyweds to smush cake in eachother’s faces, but after paying so much for makeup, hair, dress, etc… I don’t think I’m ok with that! I was wondering if any of your bees expect this to happen at your wedding or if it already did (if you’re married already. Do you have any suggestions for alternatives?
Post # 3
I don’t like it (we are generally not rude to each other for other people’s amusement) and we won’t be doing it. I don’t think it really needs a replacement, it’s not like not doing it will really cause an awkward lull or something.
Post # 4
I said it wasn’t an option at our wedding bride exactly that reason I spent hundreds on hair and make up and more on dress to waste it with smashed cake in my face so we agreed. We had a jack n Jill shower so that is when we smushed cake as i don’t wear make up normally.
Post # 5
Feed each other a small bite with forks?
I think you’ll find a lot of the ladies on this site don’t find it cute or fun.
I find cake smashing horribly disrespectful and awkward to watch. I cringe when I see couples do this. It didn’t occur at my wedding. My mom said she would have sent us the entire bill for the wedding if we smashed cake. It was the one thing she was adamant about not occurring. Needless to say, it didn’t occur.
Post # 6
Yeah, I have to agree with the other Bees! I am spending too much on my hair, makeup, etc. and my FI and I generally would not be amused by smashing cake in each others faces..so, no cake smash. I don’t think it needs a replacement. We are just going to cut the cake, feed one another, and move on.
Post # 7
I told DH that if he did that to me, we’d be visiting the divorce lawyer instead of going on our honeymoon. I find it to be very disrespectful. Not just the hair, makeup dress issue. Smashing food into someones face, not cool. Not to mention, the sybolism of your commitment to provide for each other with loving care. I’m so uncomfortable when I see couples do the smash.
I’d be interested to see if divorce rates are higher in cake smashers vs, non-cake smashers.
Post # 8
Absolutely not! What’s wrong with feeding each other nicely?
Post # 9
Definitely not going to happen to me!!
Post # 10
I hate seeing this being done.
It looks really childish to me and would never do it.
Post # 11
we didn’t do it. i hate it! i reminded DH right before we cut the cut not to smash it in my face and our photographer got a pic of it. it looks like i’m threatening DH with a knife. it’s pretty funny.
Post # 12
I’m really not a fan… You spend how long on your hair and makeup, and pay how much money on it and your dress just for it to be ruined?! Also, wedding cake is freakin’ expensive!! I think FI and I will be getting cute little forks and will feed each other, there’s no way in hell I’m getting cake shmooshed in my face!!
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre
I have nightmares about this! I’ve warned FI so many times tha the marriage will not be consummated if that happened. lol
Post # 14
I dont have a problem with it in general… I just dont want to have to deal with icing on my face. But I dont find it rude or disrespectful.
Post # 15
It sounds fun. I’m doing my own make up and hair so it’s nothing major to me.
Post # 16
I think it’s awful. My FI would be sleeping alone on the wedding night if he did that. He knows me well enough to know that is not ok.