Post # 1
Ok ladies, this came to mind while responding to this thread asking about the tradition of getting cake in the face at the reception:
I think cake in the face can be done nicely (a little cream on the nose, sure), but there are so many girls who are ANTI cake in the face because it will ruin the dress but that made me think…
If you are not ok with cake in the face, what do you think about trash the dress shoots? Is it not ok to get a little cream on your dress the day of but then be fine and dandy when asked to jump into a saltwater lagoon head first in your gorgeous gown?
What do you think?
I am totally anti TTD but that’s just me.
Post # 3
Maybe because the ‘trash the dress’ shoot isn’t done on your wedding day?
I won’t be doing a TTD, but I know I wouldn’t want cake on my face because it could ruin my ‘look’ for the rest of the evening. Not anything to do with ruining the dress.
It’s a bit like saying, why would you NOT want water thrown all over you on your wedding day, when you’re willing to participate in a water fight the day after? The two things aren’t anything to do with each other, really.
Post # 4
Their will be NO cake getting smooshed on my face!! I am paying too much for pro makeup and a pro photographer to have the rest of the night me looking like shit.
I am having a TTD shoot, but I am not sure if this counts as it will be held before my wedding with a cheapie dress i bought for $100 and the hair and make up will be from my trial date.
Also the photography is part of the package but was meant to be an engagement shoot – but I already had 2 e shoots before i booked this photographer and she had no packages without one and actually gave me a cheaper deal because she has never done a TTD shoot so even photography is essentially free
Post # 5
I can’t stand either and will not be doing either.
The wedding to me is an extremely emotionally important, almost sacred moment between the two of us (I’m atheist, but I mean it really has a LOT of significance to both me and FI, the moment we formally commit to each other forever). We will both probably be trembling under the emotional weight of it all. “Trashing” or “smushing” key symbols within the ceremony doesn’t symbolize what I feel about it at all.
It has absolutely nothing to do with makeup. If the ‘tradition’ was only about smearing cake on the groom’s face, I still wouldn’t do it. He’s my groom. It’s our wedding. It’s the last thing I want to do.
Post # 6
Yes, it might not be the same day, but you’re still in that beautiful dress you invested emotionally and financially in. Does that make a difference.
That’s my major point of curiosity. Does it even matter? Is it the day that makes the dress important or the love of the dress itself?
Post # 7
I do not want cake smushed on my face, because I don’t want to be a sticky mess with cake on my face/in my hair/on my dress on my wedding day. Once the day is over, I won’t wear the dress again (unless I end up with a dress that can be shortened to a nice, non-wedding dress). I doubt I will do a TTD, but I would not rule it out. It’s not really getting the dress dirty that bothers me (i’m sure dry cleaners can get cake out), it’s more the fact that I am spending a lot of money on our wedding and want to look good and feel comfortable the whole night. Once the night is over though, the dress will (in many cases) sit in the wardrobe doing nothing. For me it’s got everything to do with not wanting to get dirty at a very expensive party, and nothing to do with being emotionally attached to a dress.
Post # 8
I hate cake in the face. I think TTD is sometimes really cool, although I didn’t do it. I’m saving mine to make a christening gown out of I think.
Post # 9
@Lovemelovemyhorses: +1 🙂
It’s not about the dress – it’s about looking good on your wedding day. Isn’t that the reason why everyone buys an amazing dress in the first place? To look good?
Post # 10
My cake issues are not dress related.
I would consider trashing my dress, except that it’s actually moderately rewearable due to being in separate parts, so I have to think hard about it.
Post # 11
These are all really good points.
I still can’t fathom hurting my dress purposely for any reason except cutting it up and turning it into something more fantastic later on in life, but that’s probably just me.
Post # 12
Smushing cake in someone’s face is incredibly immature, and it’s ridiculous to do at weddings.
Trashing a thousand-dollar dress is wasteful. Why not sell it or donate it?
Post # 14
I’m not into TTD, but it is definitely different. That happens later – not at the wedding like with cake smashing where you’d have to still walk around for the rest of the night in a messy dress with icing in your hair.
Post # 15
We didn’t do the cake in the face thing. In fact, I didn’t eat cake at all lol. We jumped into the ocean in our clothes at the end of our wedding :o) But that didn’t trash my dress… it’s been cleaned and it’s fine :o)
Post # 16
Me not wanting to have cake smashed all over my face has nothing to do with my dress. I don’t want my face to get nasty and sticky from icing. I may trash my dress at some point but I am not 100% on it right now.