Post # 1
Ok, so here is the dilemma. I think cake smashing can be messy and well, not so fun -you know, where the Bride & Groom are supposed to gingerly feed each other a piece of cake and instead they smash it in each other’s faces? Well, FI is stuck on wanting to smash cake in my face – he seems to think it’s not a true wedding without it. I do not want my makeup and hair ruined by this, nor do I particularly want cake all over my face and up my nose. I have expressed this to him and he acts like he plans to do it regardless.
Thoughts? Have any of you dealt with this?
Post # 3
I agree with you. I dislike it, but I am lucky that my FI agrees. Have you tried suggesting an alternative? I have heard of the couple just dabbing icing on each others noses or something cute like that. He still ensures you wear baked good; you don’t have too much to clean off. Hope you find a compromise!
Post # 4
I didn’t want it either. My husband knew that I would probably kill him if he did it to me and he didn’t want me upset at him.
Post # 5
LOL – oh, MissAsB FI knows I would be more than upset I’d be downright fuming. He doesn’t seem to care though…
Post # 6
I would not be happy if FI smashed me with cake. Unless I was totally onboard before hand. Yikes! I hate anything on my face, especially food!
Post # 7
I am NOT a fan of cake smashing, either. First, it’ll ruin my makeup, which I’ll be spending time and money on. Second, it’s a waste of perfectly good cake. My FI also doesn’t like it, and actually told me that the only thing I could possibly do to ruin the wedding day would be to smash cake in his face. He REALLY doesn’t like it!
Post # 8
I hate cake smashing, personally. If FI did that he knows I would be bull and he wouldn’t get any that night. I also don’t get it because why would you want it up your noise, ruining your make up and possibly getting on your dress!
Post # 9
Saeliz, we’re in the same boat! My FI would be sleeping on the couch if he did it… lol
Post # 10
Considering that feeding cake to each other symbolizes how you will take care of each other and never let each other go hungry, there’s no way anyone will be smashing cake in my face. I don’t hold with violence, and I told CiarraiMan that if he tries to do anything other than nicely feed me, our marriage will be over before it begins.
Post # 11
Let your groom know that CAKE SMASHING is in the mostly TACKY category… very rarely is it viewed as “cute”
Post # 12
We are sooo not doing this. FI knows that I will not be happy when my hair and make up is ruined! And god help him if it gets on my dress.
If your groom is really set on it maybe you could do a trial at home to let him know just how much he can get away with. Like, just a little teeny dab on your nose so he can get it our of his system.
Post # 13
Cake smashing is definitely on my no-no list, good think my fi feels the same way. I have never understood why you would want to start off your marriage by smashing cake in each others faces. It just doesn’t seem kind or loving. Plus, all that money for hair and makeup, just to have it ruined by cake!
Post # 14
I recently read in some bridal magazine that couples who smash cake in each other’s faces (or at least do more than just “gingerly feed it to each other”) are MORE likely to get divorced. I wish I had the article to give the exact research but I only remember the quote. I have never been a fan – this statistic is even more reason why I will never allow FH to do so – and thank God he doesn’t want to anyway.
Post # 15
Honestly, I think this tradition is totally disrespectful. There is no time when my FH would smash food into my face, especially not right after I spent hundreds on my hair and makeup! Teehee 😉
Honestly though, I have only seen this happen once in real life at weddings, so I’m not sure how really traditional and how much “tv/movie traditional” it is.
Post # 16
We will be gingerly and sweetly feeding it to each other for our wedding. After we were married we had a little cake and we had a heck of a go. But we were also in jeans and coats being silly in the backyard. Let me tell you from previous experience picking cake out of places it shouldn’t be and out(and off of) the dress is beyond irritating.