Post # 1
So, here I am 28 days out from the wedding, and I’ve been struck with a problem. When creating our reception menu, we were careful to anticipate the special dietary needs of our expected guests, and plan accordingly.
…but then I forgot about cake. Our cake station will have 3 choices of cake, but they all involve eggs and gluten. Unfortunately, I’m from a small enough town that fantastic bakeries with vegan/GF options don’t exist here (yet). Our bakery’s cakes are delicious, but their vegan/gf cakes tasted bland and dry to us…we don’t want to pay for and serve a product we don’t like at our wedding. I considered the idea of expanding our dessert station to include like…dark chocolate truffles with sea salt and maybe tropical fruit salad served in martini glasses. These options would make it so that our GF/vegan guests could enjoy a dessert, just not cake.
My FI seems to think this is a non-issue. He thinks our vegan and GF guests are probably expecting that they won’t be able to have cake. I’m just not sure. We’re over budget already, and FI really doesn’t want to add to it. He has a stomach condition and won’t be able to eat certain things at the wedding because of it, so he feels like others should be willing to do the same. I don’t want any guests to feel left out, so I’m reaching out to the Hive: if you had guests with dietary restrictions, did you adjust your cake/dessert to accommodate their needs? Or did you only provide a special meal for dinner?
Thanks so much for your input! By the way, if it matters, we have a guest list of about 100, with 2 GF guests and 2 vegans.
Post # 2
PolleninLove: As a GF person for 10 years, I am use to not having wedding cakes at wedding. I don’t think anything of it–it’s just what happens. Fortunately, I am able to eat the dessert of the evening as it’s served as one of the dinner’s courses (my whole meal is classfied as gluten-free, so the dessert is too..in the past, I’ve had ice cream, fruits, etc.)
Seeing as how you are overbudget, and gluten-free foods are often quite pricey, I would do one of two things:
1. Go to a nearby health food store and purchase vegan and gluten-free cupcakes for the 4 guests. Have your venue hand deliever it to those guests, as oppose to putting it on your dessert table.
2. Include some sweet treats like chocolate-dipped strawberries for the people with the allergies. I’m sure they will understand.
Post # 3
Yep I would say you could either skip the gf and vegan cake or you could get then something like truffles or strawberries.
Post # 4
mrs-to-be-2014: This is a lovely idea! I never even thought about picking up a few cupcakes from somewhere else because I thought it “wouldn’t be allowed” from the bakery. However, they’re really just dropping off the cake so how would they know? 😛
We just got a Trader Joe’s in town, so maybe I’ll see if they have something yummy and cheap!
Post # 5
Well as a guest, I’m used to not being able to eat dessert at weddings or any social gathering for that matter.
So I would not be offended if there was nothing for me in there. But when there is an option that I can have, it makes me extra happy that the hosts were considerate of my dietary restrictions. It’s really sweet and makes me feel special. It doesn’t need to be a cake, especially if the GF/vegan cake doesn’t taste good.
I understand budget restrictions though.. So it’s really your call, if you want to please your guests or your go along with you FH.
I would probably have 4 little boxes with 3 dark chocolate truffles for your 4 specific guests, placed at their place at the table with a little note, not an entire new dessert option for everyone. That would make these guests feel happy they have dessert, and would not be overboard for the budget, it’s really just 12 truffles!
Post # 6
I’m GF and would go expecting to not be able to have any of the cake and be fine with it. But I would be incredibly touched by the specially bought cupcakes. I think it’s a really lovely idea 🙂
Post # 7
I would say if you had the extra money, the best option would be to expand the dessert table. You may only need to buy a couple vegan/GF cupcakes from a random bakery or store and have them off to the side for you specific guests, which would only cost a few bucks. That is what we are doing for our 1 or 2 guests with restrictions. HOWEVER, if you really have gone way too far over budget, as someone who has dietary restrictions, we are used to not being able to eat certian things and we do not expect to be accommodated everywhere we go. It is likely that they will already be mentally prepared to not eat dessert and cake. Good luck and don’t stress too much!
Post # 8
PolleninLove: I had a vegan cake at my wedding and it was from Whole Foods and was sooooo good!! I agree with PPs though, it is more than enough if you just pick up a few side items like cupcakes for them. As a vegan wedding guest, I would be so greatful! But I definitely wouldn’t expect it, no one has ever done anything special for dessert for me at a wedding before.