Call off wedding? Help!

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

seems like you guys have outgrown each other.

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

CLEbride2015:  It doesn’t sound like either of you are ready, and that is perfectly okay! You should for sure call off the wedding. There is nothing that says you have to break up per se, but saying you feel “trapped” is not a good indication of the longevity of your relationship. Break ups suck…. divorce sucks even worse.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Call it off. You should never describe your relationship as making you feel trapped. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

You can always postpone it until you figure things out.  No harm in that!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Stop wasting time and money on a wedding and talk to him for crying out loud.  If you can’t communicate about this now and you follow through on something you’re not even sure of, how will you ever communicate in a marriage?

Post # 7
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Helper bee

Break off the engagement and break up with him.  It is better to call it quits now than after more money is spent on the wedding and you two are married and have to go through a divorce.  

Post # 9
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Helper bee

“every time we talk about things like this it turns into a fight and honestly sometimes I feel verbally and emotionally abused”<br /><br />

This is another reason to break up with your FI.  Couples need to be able to communicate effectively and work the big things out together.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Take couples therapy and tough cam both find out what you want out of the therapy.  You’ll communicate so much better too. 

Of course you’re different from when you started dating, and you’ll continue to change because you’re both young.  You guys just have to figure out of your values are still the same and if you both have the same goals. Best of luck.  

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

CLEbride2015:  One thing to always remember: if you’re “right” for each other and compatible to be together forever, then there’s no rush to get married now – you’ll be just as right for each other when you’re 23 or 25 or 30 or 100. (Not saying to wait until you’re 100, but you get my point.) It sounds, however, like you are growing in different directions. This is fine. Doesn’t mean either of you are bad people, or that your relationship wasn’t real, or that you didn’t love each other. But it’s easier to call off a wedding than have a divorce.

Post # 15
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Helper bee

At 20 years old he should be spending his money on motorcycles,,you should be going out with your friends,, this maybe an unpopular statement but you are so young to have so much pressure and responsibility,,you have your whole lives ahead of you, why settle down so young and miss out on being young. Allow yourselves to grow up,,and that does not have to mean marriage right now,,

we are old for a long time ,,enjoy being young..

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