Post # 1
So say it’s past the RSVP deadline and several people haven’t responded yes/no. Do you call them to get an answer? Do you just assume that’s a no (I think that’s pretty dangerous).
If you do end up calling them what’s a non-pushy way of asking them to reply asap? Also if you’ve tried contacting them several times and they just never respond, at what point do you consider that they’ll be a no-show?
Sorry for all the questions. As you all know the guest list can be a point of great stress during the wedding planning and I just want to make sure I have all my bases covered.
Post # 3
We got ahold of the people we weren’t sure about. Most of them meant to RSVP but forgot. I think it’s pretty safe for you to do that.
Post # 4
Is this for your wedding (and your date is correct?). I’d assume it’s difficult for a lot of people to fully commit almost six months out, but if you need solid answers and your RSVP date has passed, then you have to call all the outstanding replies. We definitely had more people who didn’t reply because “you guys should know I wouldn’t miss it!” than people that didn’t reply because they weren’t coming.
Post # 5
@SapphireSun: oh no I haven’t even sent out the invites yet haha. I guess I’m just pre-emptively finding out what the proper protocol is now so I don’t scramble around the day before the rsvp deadline.
Post # 6
@VintageMichelle: Ahhh… Yes, you have to personally contact each person who doesn’t reply. Unless you don’t care about having an “exact” number for your party. But assuming you want to try to make a seating plan and have to give a specific number to your caterer you’ll want to. It’s one of the most frustrating parts of wedding planning. We had a couple people (ahem, my husband’s friends) that we were still trying to get a definite answer out of as I was driving home from my rehearsal dinner. Ridiculous, but they were the type to just show up even if we said something like “if you don’t let us know for sure by X, it’ll have to be a no”.
Post # 7
TO @VintageMichelle: Your RSVP Deadline needs to be well in advance of when you actually need the info.
Example, the Caterer needs to know on October 10th, then your Deadline needs to be like September 30th. Then you have about 9 Days to work with
(This is just an “example”… lots of Bride’s work with a 30 Day window… so in your case that would be September 19th)
You can’t really start making any phone calls to bug your non-RSVPers until after the deadline for the Guests to RSVP has passed… and many add on a couple more days, just incase the Reply was sent out the last day listed.
Hope this helps,