Post # 1
This was a few weeks ago, but my heart was fluttering. While I was busy with my earphones on, my SO took my union card to call up our phone company for a discount. I think he was assuming that there was noise blasting in my ears, but it was quiet.
I heard him refer to me as his “wife”.
I know, I know, it wasn’t the best place to call me his wife, especially when we are trying to get a union discount and it just seemed he wanted to validate us. But still…he called me “wife”! And what’s better is that he thinks I didn’t hear…
Post # 3
Geez, I wish my SO would do that. But he still calls me his girlfriend. He doesn’t care what ppl think. (I care, but don’t all us waiting ladies?) He was on the phone with the bank the other day regarding a car loan, and said, “……my girlfriend works part time…..” (they were asking about household income) I cringed. Buuuuut, SO’s dad was in town for a few days visiting, and he referenced me as SO’s wife when we were out to eat one day. We were talking about good, home-cooked meals vs eating out. (I love to cook, and do it nearly everday.) Pops said, “listen, son, if you’ve got a wife at home that loves to cook, you’ve got it made” and blah blah blah. My heart jumped a little when he said that. (And I realize out of context, that statement sounds a little sexist, but it wasn’t. In the convo, it sounded better. Guess ya had to be there.)
Sorry for the novel, but yeah, I feel ya! 🙂
Post # 4
I completely understand. I am always refered to as my SO wife. By other people of course.
Post # 5
I actually asked my BF’s family to stop calling me his wife or fiancee several years ago, as it’s not true, so while at first it DID give me a warm, nice feeling that they included me as family, I was also hurt that my BF hasn’t taken the steps to make it “real” in everyone’s eyes at all times, not just when it suits him. I kinda felt that if they continued he’d feel they were pushing him without him feeling he’d actually made the choice (and he’d said as much at times), and that he’d feel there was no reason to take those steps, either.
Post # 6
I know a guy who has been engaged for awhile now and is getting married this summer and he still calls his fiancee his girlfriend. I would be pissed!
Post # 7
interesting, as for me I would feel awkward in calling my man “my fiance”, i feel it sounds too romantic… my husband would be ok though.
Post # 8
@purplebee: Haha, do you know FI?! We dated for almost 7 years before our engagement, so ‘Boyfriend’ and ‘Girlfriend’ are now official nicknames. I’ve been told I’ll be ‘Girlfriend’ when we’re 80 and he’s chasing me down the nursing home hallway 🙂
Post # 9
another step down- hope he makes it official soon!