Calling African American Brides (or not). Did you have a black wedding planner?

posted 2 years ago in African-American
  • poll: Did you have a black wedding planner?
    Yes...and on purpose too! : (14 votes)
    25 %
    Yes....but I didn't even think about it till now. : (8 votes)
    14 %
    No...but I didn't even consider it till you asked. : (18 votes)
    32 %
    No...they (black planners) were no where to be found when I was looking for one. : (7 votes)
    13 %
    Other : (9 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 2
    1180 posts
    Bumble bee

    When I first started planning there was an event planner I really wanted to work with. I met her several years prior at a weddineh happy hour (don’t judge, I was there for the free drinks). Sadly she moved out of state. While she’s black, that’s not the reason I sought her out. He just had a great vibe, approachablpro and seemed easy to work wit while being professional. It would have been a bonus to give support to a black planner, but not something I actively was looking for. My current planner is everything I mentioned above, just not black. 🙂

    I will point out my secular officiant, makeup artist, and hair stylist are black. 

    All my vendors are women. All but one owning the business. 

    Post # 4
    407 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    MrsHistory-Bee:  You are not missing out on anything, the best fit is the one for you… I am on my third black planner, I am beginning to think it is me. lOL jk. My first planner we thought was a gift, well we were told it was until she sent over a contract and I have done some researching and she was not a planner she was part time helper. My second black planner screwed up and owes me money for services she has not provided as of yet. My current day of planner is what I expect, I expect to her to conduct the day of and that is all nothing more nothing less. I guess I wanted a David Tuteria on a small budget and if you don’t have a lot of money to spend they don’t want to even want to even speak with you. 

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    Post # 6
    232 posts
    Helper bee

    Definitely curious as to whether you all think it was worth it to have a planner at all. We are planning a wedding on a tight timeline but I have a hard time relinquishing control. I don’t know if getting a planner is worth it if I would still end up researching a lot of things myself.

    Post # 8
    11 posts

    Hi all!

    Newbie here. 

    I purposely looked for a planner who was African American. There were certain aspects of my wedding I thought an African American planner would understand (i.e. Fraternity stroll, the importance of the deejay and the music we are requesting, a make up artist familiar with African American skin, and a hairstylist who can manage and style African American hair). That’s not to say a non-African American planner couldn’t do these things; again for me I figured the network would already exist. Considering I am planning a wedding more than 3,000 miles away I don’t have the time, patience or desire to try and find these vendors myself for a lack of a network of African American vendors.

    Furthermore, I hear most vendors in the area I’m getting married “stick together” and don’t let “outsiders in”.

    My experience with a wedding planner has been great thus far. But I might not be the best person to ask because I already have a lot in my plate (school on weekends, full time employment, part time gig, and now wedding planning lol).

    Just my 2 cents.

    Post # 9
    472 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2014 - The Villa

    I have a black planner in mind… she’s actually Ethiopian, but I’m in DC so black businesses (and professional ones) do abound. However, as much as I want to hire her… I’m just not sure I can find the space in my budget to afford her.. *cries*

    Post # 10
    2818 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I did have a Black planner, but I didn’t hire her for that reason. The island on which I got married has a mostly afro-descended population so statistically, it was almost a given that the vast majority of my vendors (I had 11) would be Black. My photographer and videographer were white; but again, I didn’t even consider their race when hiring. That said, the services for which I relied on my planner weren’t culture/race-specific. She handled logistics, travel, contracts and not things like hair/makeup reccs or menu suggestions. What I can say is that it would have been a nice bonus to have a planner of my own religion, so that I wouldn’t have had to do so much explaining about certain details, but even that turned out not to be a huge issue.

    Post # 11
    111 posts
    Blushing bee

    MrsHistory-Bee:  I’m not black, but I am a racial minority, so I hope you don’t mind me barging in! For my reception with all my crazy ethnic relatives, I got a wedding planner who is the same culture as me. It was a GODSEND. She knew exactly what my relatives, especially the older/more traditional ones, would hate/love without asking, she was able to incorporate elements of our culture into the day, and best of all, she can talk to all of my non-English speaking relatives. I love her. She is working on my wedding as a gift (she’s a family friend), but I am still giving her a thank you gift of a couple thousand because she is seriously worth every penny. If any of those things are an issue (language, unique cultural idiosyncrasies etc.), I totally recommend getting a planner who belongs to your ethnicity/culture! 

    Post # 12
    1319 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    Yea she is. I just realized all the planners i did a consultation with were black. Wasnt specifically looking for one.

    Post # 13
    3 posts

    Yes my planners are AA. I purposesly selected them. I believe in patronizing minority businesses when possible. I am having a traditional Southern Church wedding and there were certain things that I knew that they  would be sensitive to like jumping the broom, Church requirements & guidelines and TIME(specifically the arrival of my guests). I’d seen their work so I knew that they could produce. They have been a godsend! 


    Post # 15
    111 posts
    Blushing bee

    MrsHistory-Bee:  You do the best with what you’ve been given at any particular time 🙂 I totally get that. My reception is in CA, which fortunately has a relatively large population of my particular ethnic group, and thus finding vendors was comparatively easy. In the Midwest, where I’m getting married, there would be no way in heck I could find a wedding planner from my culture! As thelatebloomer wrote, it’s a great reason to patronize minority businesses when possible, everybody wins. Best of luck!  

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