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I voted for A, but i would talk to her first because she may feel as if she can't be there enough for you..or maybe can't make it due to her schedule.
Is either of them married? And how many people are you planning on having in your Wedding Party? Why can't you have both of them?
Why can't you have 2? I am not having one at all. I don't think there are really any rules on having more than one.
If you really want just one I would go with the friend who is close, just because she will be able to help with MOH duties a little bit easier than your cousin.
Have them both! I have two MOHs and two bridesmaids. My MOHs are splitting duties, one is doing the bachelorette party, one is throwing me a shower and both are being incredibly supportive. They each have unique talents and it's really great to have both of them as sounding boards. If I have a question about dresses or makeup, I ask the one who used to work in fashion, if I have questions about timelines and logistics, I call the other who was a stage manager. I chose two MOHs but in contrast my groom is refusing to "rank" his friends and has four groomsmen, period. Everyone is cool with our decisions. Do what works best for you.
I vote for both but if you only choose one, I vote for your cousin. I know it sounds sucky, but your family will be there when your friends fade away.
I'm having two and splitting the duties like ladyox did. FI is relieved because now he will have two Best Men.
But if you're going to go all "traditional" like - I'd go with K...
I vote for both as well. I have two MOHs and they are finding it so much easier to plan everything because they have each other.
I say both as well! I'm having 2 (technically, since 1 is married & the other is not they're a maid & matron but close enough!) and am super excited. One is my best friend who I've known for 16 yrs, the other is my sister who's 9 yrs younger and still in college. They both mean the world to me=)
I vote for having both of them as your MOHs. But if you HAVE to only have one, I voted for your cousin.
I think have two. And ask them to split the duties between them. I think that's the best option and you get both your close girlfriends standing close to you on your big day!
BOTH!
severla of my friends who have gotten married had two MOHs, go for it!
I vote both too! These rules are not hard and fast - and it's your wedding, you should do what's right for you!
I vote both!!
I was in a dilemma too, because I have 2 best friends. So I have a Matron of Honor and a Maid of Honor!!
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I agree that you can have both! But if you want to choose one, I would say A. My MOH lives 1000 miles from me and we haven't had any problems. She is doing a great job planning all the parties even from a distance. :)
Have two... I do... I had too very close college friends I could never choose between.
Just keep in mind that you shouldn't consider proximity :) MOH's sometimes get pegged as the little helper to the bride during planning, and that's not exactly the case. If they offer, great! If not, it's perfectly fine :)
I'm not making any assumptions, I just really like it when brides pick BMs and MOHs based on their relationship, not how far away they are in case the bride needs help.
My sister was my MOH, and she was the farthest away. I would never have taken her location into account when choosing between her and my cousins. I was so proud and happy to have my sister stand next to me on my big day.
My BIL had both hubby and bff as bestmen. They planned the bachelor party together and then they took turns at the wedding... Hubby was in charge of the ceremony, He stood first, kept the ring, etc. BFF was in charge of the reception and thus did the toast. It wworked out well for all of them.
K, avalibility made that an easy decision. Its hard enough to coordinate w/ people... especially if they are far away and busy in college. Yano... not there to help and plan like the MOH does.
I vote both, alot of people are doing it this day and it's a double honor :o)
I vote both!
But if you have to choice one, then I vote for A, your cousin . I completely agree with Miss Chapstick. Your MOH shouldn't have to be the one closest to you. You know that, or you wouldn't be asking this question :) Your MOH should be the one where when you look back on this day 20 years from now, you'll be happy she was standing by your side. And you can do a lot from a distance.
Plus, I'm sure K is a great friend and will want to help you regardless of what her title is since she is so close, as I would hope any good friend would. It would be ideal if all three of you could work together. So maybe calling them both your maids of honor would be best!
I would pick both and split the responsibilities/have them work together. I agree with Miss Chapstick that it shouldn't be based on proximity!
I was in this same situation...I have two friends that are just so near and dear to me...but one I've known since 3rd grade, she's been there thru everything and eventhough she lives further away, I still went with her. SOMEONE has to be the one who signs the papers as your witness...and that's the MOH. I would talk to both of them and explain your dilema. I'm sure the cousin who lives far away would understand that you need a MOH who's going to be there for you thru all the wedding planning, trying stuff on etc... Very tough decision, I wish you all the best..
I vote for A - even though she is farther away, I think the most important thing is how close your relationship is!
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Maid of Honor dilemma!
Option K: We have been friends for almost 8 years. She is my best girlfriend and was one of my roommates in college. She doesn't wear her emotions on her sleeves so as close as we are, we are never really that close because she never truly shares what she's thinking. I feel like its a game sometimes. BUT she has always been there in my time of need and would die for me if necessary. plus she is going into party planning as her career. Note: She lives 10 min away.
Option A: Cousin. awesome. super close. I can tell her anything. Basically my sister BUT she lives halfway across the country and is in college and will be still at the time of my wedding.
I really don't know who to choose. I love A and I love K! I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings and if I could have to MOH's I totally would. I just need some opinions from the outside world. Please!