Calling all casual/ non traditional wedding brides!

posted 2 years ago in Beehive
Post # 2
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3666 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

BritishBride2015:  We are surprising our parents and getting married on Christmas Day when both or our immediate families are there, they don’t even know we’re engaged. The pastor is a family friend and has agreed to just show up and marry is right there. This worked out well for us because my family lives far away (they live in Maine, we live in Florida) most of them (everybody except for my parents) don’t have the means to buy plane tickets to come to a wedding. My parents were already planning on coming down for Christmas this year so we just decided we’re going to do it then. I also can’t really justify spending thousands of dollars on one party, we wouldn’t have any family help paying and we have better things to spend our money on, like paying off my student loans. I’m going to be making my veil and a long tulle skirt to slip on really quick and bing bang boom, wedding. The only thing I may regret is not having professional pictures. We do plan on getting pictures done after so that should suffice. And we also will have a couple post-wedding parties for our friends and extended families.

Post # 3
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2661 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

This was a subsequent wedding for me and my hubby.  We’d each gone the big wedding route before.  We had a small ceremony at church and dinner on the patio of our favorite restaurant.  It was small, relaxed, intimate, and frankly, quite perfect.  The food was great.  I wasn’t stressed.   It wasn’t very expensive. It was much, much more fun than a big shindig, IMO.  And much less stress on the bride!

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 1 month ago by  NavyBee.
Post # 5
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3666 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

BritishBride2015:  We are getting married at my FIs parents house. We will already be there for Christmas dinner, so food will be there too!

That’s exactly what I was going to do for my outfit… tulle skirt and cardigan, I love the combination of casual sweater and fancy dress. I love those skirts and etsy and tulle is super cheap to buy, so I figured I’d try my hand in making one myself, I’m a decent seamstress, so we’ll see!

Post # 6
msbordercollieMember
102 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I like your city hall idea.  Could you do that and then do a reception with cake and punch after the fact with a larger group?

Post # 10
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1099 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

BritishBride2015:  We’re actually doing something non traditional. We are considering having our ceremony at the court house and then having everyone come to a 1920’s speakeasy type dinner show. I’ve also found an art deco hotel in Chicago that will allow us to do there ceremony there as well as having our reception in their VIP lounge.We probably won’t have more than 40 people. I’m so excited to do it because we aren’t typical, big wedding party people. I say go for it and most people will understand keeping the guest list small.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

BritishBride2015:  We’re doing a casual/super small wedding (12 people). We’re getting married for free in a public park (with everyone just standing around) and then going to a french restaurant. It will be just immediate family. 

About a week before the wedding we’re going to have a 1940s themed “Almost Married” party with our friends at our apartment. That way we can feel like we really got to celebrate with the people that mattered. I’m going to spend like $400 (on the apartment party) for fewer than 10 people so I can really treat my guests to some goregous wine, seafood, fine cheese, etc. We’re going to decorate everything and then later in the night we’ll probably bar hop with our group- a friend of mine will act as photographer for the night so we’ll have pictures. 

I am wearing a traditional dress for the actual wedding day, and we will have a photographer, but that’s about the only traditional part. My dad is going to get “ordained” online so that he can do the actual ceremony. I think the wedding day (including outfits, hair, photo, food, etc. ) will cost around $3,000.

If we had a standard wedding (with only 50 people) it would cost a minimum of $10,000 and probably more than that. We would not be able to have a honeymoon, and we would have to do everything wayyyyy on the cheap (really cheap food, ugly venue, etc.). This way we get to have two gorgeous little parties, and go to Iceland for 9 days! 

Do what you want! Weddings have gotten CRAZY, and I really don’t understand it, it’s too much pressure. 

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