Post # 1
I feel like such an embarassment to the female kind. I feel sooo confused about ovulating, and when people talk about being Xdpo… and I feel like the more i google about it, the more im confused… Hopefully some can educate me on a few questions i have… b/c hopefully we can TTC next cycle..
1) When I google about ovulation, they have the online calculaters.. and they are that your most fertile days are V,W,X.Y,Z… but am I correct that only 1 of those days are when your egg drops and when you actually Ovulating??
2) That you usually ovulate 2ish weeks before your next period? and that we should be BDing pretty much ever other day?
Oh Lord… Im so embarassed..
Post # 3
@graygodess20: No reason to be embarrased! Nobody teaches us this stuff!
Start out by reading through this:
Specifically in regards to your questions:
1. Yes, you only ovulate on one day, and the egg lives about 24 hours. But, sperm live in your reproductive tract for 3-5 days, so you’re fertile for those 3-5 days leading up to and including the day of ovulation.
2. Yes, you usually ovulate about 2 weeks before your period, but only if you have a 14 day luteal phase. Many women, such as myself, do not have a 14 day LP, so for example mine was 10 days so I ovulated 10 days before my period. And yes, the best recommendation is to BD every other day thoughout your fertile period, and if you’re not sure when that is, just keep on BDing every other day from AF to AF if you can!
Post # 4
@bananasareyellow: Thank you so much for that link!!! I think im just so worried that im not going to understand it all, and therefore will never get pregnant!
Post # 5
@graygodess20: Haha – it’s definitely overwhelming at first! But, you don’t need to know all there is to know to get pregnancy. The gist of it is, BD without protection. 😉
Post # 6
Don’t look at online calculators, they are generic guesses based off of “normal” cycles. To kind of narrow down when you ovulate you can do a few things. First you can chart. This means every morning you take your temperature and record it. Fertilityfriend.com is a good website for you to keep track of all of your temps. It will usually be able to zone in on when they believed you ovulated.
Second is using OPK’s. Ovulation predictor kits. You can buy them at Wal-mart or Target and they come in different kinds. There are lined OPKs, which basically means you pee on the stick every morning and when your lines are equally dark it means you’ve started your surge (to ovulate). I use Clearblue digital smileys. It takes the guess work out of the lines, but it has a similar concept.
The next way is by monitoring your cervical mucus. It changes throughout your cycle and when you are most fertile it will be like egg whites (it’s called EWCM). It will be stretchy and slippery like the white part of a raw egg. You can check by wiping when you use the restroom or you can stick your fingers up there and check.
I would suggest doing a combination of the three. That way you get to know your body and what to expect. Generally speaking having sex every other day is good, but if you know what to look for you can zone in on when the best time is for you. Every other day for months at a time may lose the appeal. lol
If you check out the mothering.com forum there is a section for TTC and then iamtryingtoconceive.com is another good one. It’s for the sperm bank my partner and I use so there are a lot of women over there that know the technical side to TTC very well because we don’t have the option of fresh sperm from our partners.
ETA: a good book to check out is “taking charge of your fertility”