(Closed) Calling all Italians!

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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9483 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Sunshine09:  Oh boy.  Us Italians are BIG on families.  Everyone is a must even if you don’t have the money because you can’t invite this person and not this person.  It’s a mess.  Hah.  I’m sorry you’re going through this.  Luckily, my Italian family is fine with me having a small, intimate wedding.  

Food and drinks are pretty much the only important thing to me.   

Are his parents help footing the bill or is it all on you?  Typically Italian parents go all out because they’re footing the bill and just want a lavish party.  Any excuse really.

Post # 4
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2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Oh man. My side is Italian. His side is Irish. I’m talking, off the boat for both of us.

My family is insisting on me carrying the Italian “money” purse. Basically, you walk around and people give you money. We’re also doing some Italian dances.

We were able to avoid the kid thing because there are no kids on my side besides super distant cousin’s children. We wont be inviting them since there is a family riff. (thank goodness… sort of).

Post # 6
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9483 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Sunshine09:  I’d have fun with it then, but still make sure your input is respected.

Post # 7
Bee
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza

Ahahahahah. Sorry this posted cracked me up. I come from a family of off the boat Italians. It all seems normal to me because it’s what I’m used to, but I think all of this Italian wedding etiquette has really thrown my FI for a loop. He’s a good sport though and it sounds like you are too! πŸ˜‰

I recently had it out with my mom over the stupid jordan almonds (except we don’t call it that, there is an Italian word for it that I can say, but not spell).

Welcome to the family! πŸ˜‰

Post # 8
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My fiance and I are both Italian and were planning this HUGE wedding …. my cousin had 640 people at her wedding … for us Sunday dinner is at least 35 – 40 people. It can be totally overwhelming and ridiculous, I would say at least 20% of our guest list consisted of people we had never met, this is very typical. At the end of the day, we cancelled our wedding and are having a small cocktail party with an excahnge of vows, but we’ll still be dancing the tarantella.

Even growing up Italian, the planning spiraled out of control!! Now I was never a girl who dreamed of her wedding day so even the smallest hint of frustration, I ran the opposite way … my advice is to remember to keep it YOUR DAY, but make sure the food is good πŸ˜‰

Post # 11
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169 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@coyote:  So funny, my mother wants Jordan Almonds too. You are supposed to have 5 in a net and each one signifies something…I personally love them, my FI is allergic to almonds, that would make for an interesting day!

 

Post # 12
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9483 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Mrs_D:  Miss my family Sunday dinners.  πŸ™  I can’t wait to start that tradition with my own kiddies and such.  Unfortunately, our families kind of separated after my great grandmom wasn’t able to have Sunday dinners anymore than passed away.

Post # 13
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169 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I am half italian, mom is 100%. She is very respectful of my guest list and not over the top. So I guess I lucked out. There is a lot of the overly traditional stuff Im passing on. I do like a good tarentella dance though!

Post # 16
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6207 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

I agree with everyone else, try to enjoy the tidal wave if you can! At least they’re not expecting you to pay for everyone. My mom has already started naming all the people she’s inviting to my wedding, and I’ve never even heard of some of them, let alone met them

The good thing is that you shouldn’t have to worry about hosting/meeting everyone because a huge italian family entertains themselves and everyone else!

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