- 3 years ago
- Wedding: December 2014
My fiance is an aspiring law enforcement officer. He completed the law enforcement academy in another state, and moved to our current state to be with me. (Unfortunately, the academy doesn’t transfer, and he has to start all over.)
He got into some trouble as a teenager and young adult. He’s the son of a pastor…you know how that goes. Smoked a lot of marijuana for about 7 years, sold minor amounts of marijuana and cocaine as a high schooler, and did xanax for a month. Was technically arrested once as a minor and released to his parents, this was expunged. As an adult, got a citation for providing alcohol to minors (we listened to some stupid friends and had a bonfire on the beach, he was the only one who was 21, everyone was 19-20 and no one had more than one sip of beer- they were watching). He completed an alcohol education/counseling course, and this was expunged.
This all sounds really bad.
Long story short, he made a lot of mistakes. He’s learned from them, though, and geniunely wants to be a peace officer. He wants to help people, especially kids who find themselves in the same bad situations that he was in. He really was not in a good place, but has shaped up and gotten his life together over the last four years. He has matured incredibly, and everyone we know has commented on what a good police officer he would be. He’s kind, fair, intelligent, and totally by the book. I know he’ll be amazing. He did incredibly well in the academy he completed in our old state.
He has passed the first step of the interviewing process in a neighboring town, and has made it to the second round, which is a psychological profile and an oral interview. At this time, he also has to turn in a packet that they provided him. Most of it is pretty typical, but halfway through, the really hard questions start. And they’re specific! They’re going to be doing background checks on me, my family, and his whole family. They ask about any arrests of family members, whether the applicant has ever been arrested, used drugs, etc….in excruciating detail. Also, this is all handwritten (are they going to analyze his handwriting? It seems pretty intense for a basic peace officer job in a smallish town…)
My gut is that he should be brutally honest, and use these experiences to frame his deep desire to be a peace officer and help others overcome these same mistakes. He’s thinking that certain things (like the xanax and selling cocaine) will be a huge red flag that will blacklist him forever. My thought is that they will polygraph him with these questions, and failing a polygraph would be worse than coming clean in the first place.
Is there anyone with any experience with this? We don’t really have any police officer friends or people to talk to. My FI is planning on talking to some people he went to the academy with, but we’d love to hear everyone’s opinions.