Post # 1
long story short: we utterly f’d up with the birth control situation and it’s possible that I am now pregnant but I won’t be able to test until next week at the earliest.
In the mean time I thought I would get used to the idea in my head just in case. Our dd is a little over 3 months old at the moment, so they would be almost exactly 1 year apart.
So please tell me your stories about having or being an Irish twin. Thank you.
Post # 2
I am not an Irish Twin, not do I have children, but my friends are IT’s. They are 10 months apart. 10 MONTHS! When the mother was pregnant, people from their church would comment “Oh, I thought you had the baby by now” not knowing she was pregnant again. The boys would have been in the same grade, but she held one back.
They grew up having a ton of the same friends and fighting with each other more than the other siblings because they were so close in age.
Post # 3
Sassy9226: My coworker was is in the exact same situation. It is hard to be pregnant with a little one and it isn’t easy have two so young. It was especially hard as a working parent. However, it gets so much better. You get done with the “up all night” years quickly and the kids are able to play together and have common playdates with just one kid coming over. She loves it now, but at the time she found out she was so scared and was so afraid to tell my boss and our coworkers. We were thrilled for her!
Post # 4
it’s good to hear from people, I’ll be honest I’m kind of freaking out about this whole situation. very much ahead of schedule
Post # 5
“Irish twins” is a derogatory term that mocks Irish Catholics for not using birth control. A more suitable phrase May simply be “children born very close together.”
Post # 6
I am aware of the origins of the phrase but the english language changes the defiintions of words all the time. The dictionary definition of Irish Twins is: Two children born in short order : Having two children as close as 10 to 18months is comparable to having unequal twins, and they are even calledIrish twins (1980s+)
They changed the defintion in the 1980’s before I was even born. The english language, you gotta love it.
Post # 7
I’ve always heard the phrase used affectionately, never heard anyone say it in a derogatory way.
Post # 8
I am an Irish twin. Doesn’t matter, never noticed it, never thought about it growing up. Just keep movin’ along and enjoy your kiddos!
Post # 9
My mom was an irish twin. My uncle was almost 11 months younger. My grandparents were also 22-23. Since I’m that age now, I could NOT imagine having a 14 month old and a 3 month old. I’m sure it’s a shock at first, but I’m sure you will get used to it soon enough. Thinking of you!
Post # 10
Sassy9226: My kids are 17 months apart. They have always been very close. It was a little bit harder in the very beginning, but Pollywog: is right, it does get easier with time. If you are expecting another, they will probably entertain each other, which works out very nicely! Good luck
Post # 11
It’s still an offensive term to some. The dictionary doesn’t decide what is offensive and what isn’t. Sensitivity and awareness are far too scarce in this world I suppose.
Post # 12
It is not my responsibility if people choose to be offended by an outdated insult, everything is offensive to someone, somewhere. If a 30 year old insult gets you is on you to police your reaction to it and ask why that is, not me.
Post # 13
If it’s not an offense to people to whom it’s supposed to be offensive, (me), it’s not offensive at all.
Political/cultural correctness gone haywire!
Post # 14
Lol what is offensive about this phrase? Some catholics don’t use birth control, and what happens when you’re fertile, don’t use BC and have sex a lot? Babies. Nobody is calling the Irish or Catholics whores or anything. Fertility and back-to-back pregnancies happen when one doesn’t use birth control, which apparently was a trend among the Irish Catholics back in the day. Absolutely nothing offensive about that.
I would love to be able to have my kids within a year and a bit of each other, even though I’m sure it’d be hectic for the first few years.
FI and his sister are 13 months apart, but were both born premature. I guess they would qualify? His mom is always going on about how happy she was with the situation, and the kids were very close growing up.
Post # 15
You sound like me! I got pregnant when my son was 3 months old. I can’t tell you how it is having two under 12 months apart yet As I’m 29 weeks pregnant, but I can share that the pregnancy part is very difficult. My son doesn’t understand why I can’t play on the floor all time and why he can’t climb up my mountain of a belly. I can’t even reach to put him in his crib so he ended up in my bed and I can’t get him back into the crib. He’s teething and there’s no sleep for mama. everyone says I look “about to pop” because I’m huge as my uterus never got a break. My son is about to walk so I chase him around all day and still keep the house up so the Braxton hicks are pretty constant from 3 pm on, which also is scary and awful. I left my job at 6 months pregnant to try to get some extra rest but it’s awfully hard with a crawling, curious, energetic little one around!
On a positive note I am very excited the kids will grow up together and we will now have one of each! Everyone I’ve spoken too who has Irish Twins (Im assuming it’s ok to use this since I am an Irish Catholic and they are my kids) says they wouldn’t have it any other way. And all of our baby stuff such as the swing and all was never packed away. Our house is ready! I even had some newborn/ size 1 diapers! Since it’s a girl I got to buy lots of clothes too which is fun… And decorate a second nursery since my son isn’t out of his crib and I plan on letting him stay in t until he’s about 2. And the newborn stage is fresh in your mind too!