- 3 years ago
- Wedding: July 2014
Background: I’m not nigerian, but my FI is US-born and raised Nigerian (Yoruba) and he wants to do reentry and dancing to nigerian music with spraying (like a dollar dance- it’s the way old school Nigerians give money gifts) during our reception. 20% or less of our guests will be Nigerian (about 5-10% of that group are US-born and raised). Neither FI nor his parents think a traditional engagement is needed, so we are only doing the wedding ceremony and reception in a white dress/tux/suit, then after dinner/first dance/toasts/cake-cutting and a bit of dancing, we plan to change into Yoruba clothes and come back in for 30mins-1 hr of dancing to Nigerian music and spraying, etc. I’m happy to do this, but have some questions about attire and timing.
1. How long should it take me to change into the Yoruba attire, especially if I’m changing into a gele and iro? (I’m worried about missing too much of our limited reception and photography time)
2. How long did the Nigerian music and spraying last? What time did it start? (Our dinner starts at 6:30/6:45 and our toasts/eating/cake-cutting etc. will probably end by 8:30. I want some time to dance to US music and enjoy being in my dress. I”m not sure when’s too early or too late for our reentry.)
3. Can I wear a different Yoruba outfit instead of wearing a buba and iro? I’ll be wearing a gele (from what I understand, that’s mandatory), but I prefer not to wear a buba (baggy blouse) and iro (material wrapped as skirt) because they aren’t as flattering on me. I’d prefer to wear something more fitted/tailored. I look much better in fitted/tailored things and would feel more comfortable, confident, and beautiful (and since it’s my wedding day, don’t I get to feel that way?). I’m hoping I don’t have to leave the reception and get out of the dress I LOVE to change into an outfit I don’t like or feel good in.
If it helps, I’d even be willing to wear a different Yoruba outfit at the welcome event or dinner the night before the wedding too. I have some examples below and if you have pics of any other Yoruba outfits that I might like that aren’t buba and iro, please post them.
Typical gele (head wrap/hair tie), buba (baggy blouse), and iro (material wrapped as skirt):
Could I wear outfits in the style of any of these below instead of the buba and iro?
A: (yoruba bride)
B: (yoruba bride)
C: (bride not yoruba, but groom is, so they dressed in yoruba attire for ceremony. if I did this, my dress would be of a fancier material)
D: (yoruba bride) I could use a fancier material if that makes a difference
E: (yoruba bride)