Calling all "Pull Out Method" Parents(-to-be)

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MargaritaVille:  Interesting… The efficacy is actually very close to that of condoms if used properly. We use the POM and no scares so far. However, we are also very careful and we never go for a “round 2” unless he’s made sure to go pee to clear the works of any residual sperm (sorry if TMI).

I would be interested to see the experiences of other people, and I hope they are honest about how careful they have been in using the method.

Post # 4
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3637 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

This is from a Youtube channel which I am enjoying. The lady talking is a qualified sex therapist and actually challenged my views on the pull out method:

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VUGvxiNTjDU

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

We use this exclusively as well and no scares for 4 years. Interested to hear from others. 

Post # 7
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2305 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I’d also be interested to hear other Bees’ experiences. DH and I have used POM almost exclusively for 8 months with no issues so far.

I have seen a few studies that show that while many men don’t have sperm leak into pre-ejaculate fluid, some do, and there’s no way to tell whether or not your man does or not.

So maybe this 4% failure rate is attributed to men who have sperm in their pre-ejaculate fluid?

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MargaritaVille:  We used the POM effectively until he decided not to pull out one day.  So, I don’t really count it as POM failure since it was a conscious decision not to pull out (he told me he wasn’t going to and I didn’t stop him, I told him it’s possible I could be fertile so he could call it and he continued on (sexy huh?!) lol and while we weren’t planning to really start trying for another 3 months or so, it didn’t matter to us if we got pregnant before then.  We figured the chances of me getting pregnant that one time were low anyways but we got a happy surprise 2 weeks later!

I can’t speak to the whole going to the bathroom before hand thing to expel previous sperm, since we honestly weren’t having sex more than a few times a week so it wasn’t really an issue.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@rachelmichelle: (Reply # 6) —> THIS

And the fact that not every time one has sex is going to necessarily be like the last time… there is the “human element”… sometimes people get carried away, and stuff happens (he doesn’t exit quick enough)

As someone who has been fertile for over 40 years, I’ve always been in the camp, that if you don’t want a baby NOW… then you need to take precautions that work… be that abstinence or doubling up BC

If you aren’t so worried about “an accident” happening, then you can be a lot more laissez faire about using BC

 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MargaritaVille:  I used regular birth control pills as our protection… but honestly always thought the pull out method was kind of a joke… After working through the TTC process I think that a combination of the pull out method and charting so you know your fertile window would probably be a pretty safe bet… either way, before we started TTC it would not have been worth the risk for me EVER… probably 4% chance IF done correctly but it seems a little sketch to me… Good luck to you though Hun!

Post # 12
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I’m new here. I have been using the POM for going on four years an I got pregnant in between those yrs only because I was invertintly placed on a drug to induce menstrual that also acted as a fertility drug an SO decided he didn’t want to pull out. I know a mouth full lol,but I also have PCOS. I used it with my ex fiancé a swell an never conceived.

Post # 15
cherrypieBee
1059 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008 - A tiny town just outside of Glacier National Park

@MargaritaVille:  Honestly, if there are only 4% of people who get pregnant from the POM, most of them are likely not on this board– if you consider that most people here were TTC, your 4% probability of hitting a POM pregnancy person in the general population to poll probably decreases a bit.

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