Post # 1
To all the bees who were bridemaids before, what was the most thoughtful/useful/favorite/memorable gift you’ve ever received from the bride?
I’m still debating on what to get my Maid/Matron of Honor (i have two of them) and really want something they’d like.. would hate to spend money on something they’d never use/wear/etc. I figured giftcards would be best, but its not as “memorable”. I then thought of a key pendant for both of them… but not sure if they’d wear it!!
So confused!! Bees, help!!
Post # 3
You’re not the only one. I am struggling with this as well. I have NO idea what gifts to give my BM’s, and I only have two! one, the MOH is my sister, and the other is my BFF of almost 20 years. Gifts I have gotten as a Bridesmaid or Best Man were
My BFF got me a Wicker Beach bag, and bath stuff-
My sister got me a ceramic crock along with napkins, napkin rings, and some spatulas, and candles, bath soap. I was moving out of my parents house and needed stuff.
A jewerly box with my name engraved on it- never used it
I know I want to get my girls a GC towards their hair, but I also want to get them something extra special since they are two of the most important people in my life other than my Fiance.
Post # 4
I’ve been in over 20 weddings. I’ve gotten a garden set, a vase, candles, spa package (not as cool as it sounds), jewelry, and bags. The best gift I ever got was an Ipod. All that other stuff was nice but the Ipod is the only thing I continually use.
Post # 5
lets see I’ve been in 5 weddings all within the past 3 years. I received jewelry and clutches/wristlets.
wedding 1: custom earrings from erin gallagher. http://www.egjewelry.com/store/ i actually wear the earrings quite frequently and always get compliments on them.
wedding 2: pearl earings and bracelet set. eh. not sure where from. i never wear pearls. but if i need them, i have them.
wedding 3: makeup. mac lip gloss and mascara. this was my sisters wedding and she pretty much eloped. i wasn’t expecting anything, so it was a nice surprise.
wedding 4: crystal stud earrings and matching necklace from davids bridal. old navy flip flops in black. and a black cotton handbag with my first initial in pink. the necklace broke while getting it off of the package. i’ve lost one of the earrings. the flip flops snapped. how? i don’t know. and really what am i going to do with the handbag. nice gestures and great for the actual wedding, just not practical afterwards.
wedding 5: a little extravagant. a silver coach wristlet. i use it quite frequently. more pearls, this time from silpada. earrings and bracelet again. silver jcrew flip flops. comfy and i wear them often.
@MrsPinkPeony: holy crap! how did you find time and money to be in all of them?!?!?! ipod is a super nice gift.
Post # 6
Best gift I got was a coach wristlet and a pashmina – I still use both to this day!
Post # 7
I think the only gift I’ve received that I’ve liked was a bag with my initial on it. But it was a bigger one that I can use at the gym or beach.
Otherwise, every time I receive jewelry for the wedding, I end up never wearing it again since it’s not my taste.
I feel like the best gifts are those tailored to the girl and not the group. I did once receive a great pair of green stud earrings that I loved but couldn’t wear b/c my ears are super sensitive. And also a necklace with a green horseshoe (clearly I like green) from another that I loved.
My friend who just got married gave her girls a subscription to a magazine (along with other stuff) and I thought that was awesome. I’m still trying to think of what to get mine. It’s tough!!!
Post # 8
I have only been in one wedding so far ( i’m in a few this summer) but I didn’t get anything from the bride. She made us jewelry that after 5 years I still haven’t recieved, but she promises we’ll still get. lol. I would have LOVED if the bride had paid for my hair and makeup! That can get costly and you’re right, why spend money on something they will never wear/use again. It would have been nice to have been pampered for one day. 🙂 Unless your bridesmaids are in a situation where money isn’t an issue, and they can pay for those things, then get something that they will like (movie tickets for the movie buff, sephora giftcard for the make up enthusiast!). They aren’t impersonal if that is what they really like. Why get an engraved jewelry box for someone who doesn’t wear jewelry? right?
Post # 9
Give them gifts that you would get them for their birthday or Christmas, not something wedding specific. I have never worn wedding specific jewelry again after the wedding (and have received it almost every time). My best friend gave me a vintage NKOTB t-shirt for being in her wedding. We’ve known each other since jr. high, so for us it made sense and was totally meaningful, it was funny and sentimental but had NOTHING to do with her wedding, it was just US.
If a friend loves movies, buy her some DVDs or pay for a Netflix subscription. For a wine lover, a great bottle of wine would be great (and maybe she will share with you!) Whatever her hobbies or tastes, get her something about HER, not your wedding.
Post # 11
i’m paying for their hair and makeup. they are all so different i would have no idea what to get them all. and frankly i dont want to waste money on something they wont use. i know wedding are stressful so taking care of hair and makeup is a way for them not to stress about it and me either. i’m sure i will get them all a card or something. but that’s about it.
Post # 12
so I did a few things… jewelry was big, women love it and I knew my 2 BMs would feel special with some bling bling.
real gold jewelry gift, monogrammed necklace with pearl enhancer (above)
expensive but I only had 2 BMs
faux gold jewelry for day of wedding, they loved everything and wore both faux and real jewelry for the wedding.
also got them faux fur wraps and gold clutch purses.
Post # 13
I got a necklace I really like, and the bride paid for my hair and make-up which I also really liked (any time stuff for the actual wedding is covered I’m happy).
My sister got me a sephora giftcard, and got all the bridesmaids matching pashminas and underwear to wear on the day of the wedding. I still use both, and I loved the giftcard!
Post # 14
thanks everyone for the replies!! my conundrum is that i also have no idea what to get them normally lol. but i really love the ideas about “try to think outside of the wedding” box.
I did realize though that my one Maid/Matron of Honor has a thing for designer handbags; so i decided to get her a purse organizer. I think its great to keep things in big bags organized so you’re not fumbling for stuff and easier to switch things out. Think that would be an ok gift though?
The other one is more techie, so I think i might just get her a gc to fry’s or something? Any techie people out there and advice on what is on your wishlist? lol
keep the ideas coming!
Post # 15
@MrsPinkPeony: I want to be in whosever wedding gave you an iPod, jeeze louise!
I’m getting my BM’s nice pearl earrings. All of my BM’s are girly and will appreciate a nice pair of earrings that they can wear over the years.
Post # 16
I am giving my girls jewelry- but not all the same. I’m going to pick individual pieces for each of them based on what I know they like- and I’m going to keep it within the same price range so it will stay even.