(Closed) Calling all short engagement brides!

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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198 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I will have had a 9-month engagement (almost exactly) by the time we get married in August. I haven’t had any problems with venues or vendors but we started with our planning right away, so I guess that would be my advice: don’t procrastinate. I do think a longer engagement would have allowed us to save some money (search for better deals). I think a shorter engagement just compresses everything and you end up with less of the “down time” in planning that I see other ladies write about. I don’t mind because as much as I love planning my wedding, I am also looking forward to being married (and NOT planning my wedding). ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
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103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

my wedding is in 7 weeks. i had a 2 month engagement. Im the kinda person thats like, “ok, this is whats happening, lets do it now.” so everything is pretty much taken care of. I just booked the park for the ceremony yesterday, bought my dress, bridesmades dresses, reception is being held at FI’s parents. Cakes done, flowers done, officiant is done. the only thing im waiting on now is to find a 2nd caterer, buying booze, wedding licence, and music, which FI promises he’s working on…ya right…i think for me this was perfect amount of time. Im not the kind of person who likes to sit there for 13 months planning and waiting. Im more, wham bam thank you mam!

Post # 5
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1854 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

@Kristij: can’t believe how efficient you are! You rock!

Post # 6
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605 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I have an 8-month engagement and it seems perfectly sane and like plenty of time to plan our 75-guest informal wedding. My family has this odd rule that engagements shouldn’t last much more than a year, so I was prepared for a short engagement and already half-planned (in my head, if not in reality) before the proposal. We toyed with having a 1-4 month engagement (talked of dates from New Year’s Eve through March before picking July). In retrospect, I’m glad we didn’t make it THAT short.

Post # 7
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144 posts
Blushing bee

I am having a three month engagement and I am going crazy.  I feel soooo behind everyone and have no idea what I should be completed and what I should be working on. 

I wish someone would create a page on wikipedia that is on “bridal stress” so my FI can understand that I am not the only one stressed out about wedding planning every day.  Or am I?

 

 

Post # 8
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179 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Our engagement is exactly (to the day!) eight months long, and that’s about as short as I can take it. It turned out perfect for me. I’m a person of action, most of the time. If I think about a new project, interest, etc. I jump on it, so it was natural to do the same when finding wedding vendors or our venue. Plus it doesn’t leave me to second-guess (much) over the choices we’ve made.

What helped the most was reading the wedding blogs, doing vendor research and collecting all of the inspiration pictures when our engagement was imminent. That way, I had a faily good idea of what I liked, what he liked and could start calling venues and vendors right away.

Post # 10
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333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We are having a 6 month engagement with both of us working full time plus jobs.  For me, DIY projects have been kept to a minimum and I haven’t had the time to ‘shop around’ for vendors.  As soon as we find someone we like, we book them.   I’ve chosen vendors that are a bit pricier but do more of the set up and planning for me.  Work is more stressfull than wedding planning right now. 

Post # 11
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60 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Our engagement will be 4 months and 6 days…getting married in 35 days! We’ve invited 320+ guests! I think the first thing to do is get the reception/church venue….so many places cater, that for me, catering wasn’t a big issue. Then, get your dress and the bridesmaids dresses. I went and got my dress, back in January, and then got a call that my first and second choices could not be in on time…SO, I had to start over! I tried to just go with it…even though I am a type A personality, I learned to not let the little (and sometimes BIG) wedding mishaps, so to speak, ruin the process for me! It’s all about attitude! My dress isn’t some amazingly elaborate thing, but I didn’t want it to costs thousands, so I never expected it to be! It is SUPER stressful….both FH and myself work full-time and he’s out of town a few nights a week. So, I’ve done a lot of things on my own. I am fortunate that he is supportive and trusts my judgement! I am also very fortunate that my mom is within an hour’s drive of me and has offered to help with any and everything! Although I’ve still been able to do quite a few DIY projects (card box, all 38 centerpieces, guest book, thank yous for shower, etc.) I would have loved to do more! I also think it is important to know who and what to delegate….many people volunteered, but few could I count on! Stressful, sure…but I think it would be even more stressful to have to worry about this for many more months and years! I look at it like, hey, at least I’m only stressed for four months! ๐Ÿ™‚ Good luck, happy planning, and again: it’s all about attitude! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
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90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

My engagement will be just under 5 months when we get married next month. I think this has been the perfect amount of time for planning, although I had done a bit of unofficial planning before we were officially engaged (scouted out venues, narrowed down dates to get married, etc) so by the time we were officially engaged we already knew which date we needed which made decision making a bit easier in that respect. 

I guess you could say we are lucky in a lot of ways – I’m a graphic designer and huge DIY person, so I cranked out my own STDs and invites, flower bouquets, bouts, and centerpieces.  My FI’s sister is in culinary school so she’s making our cake, and I have always known who I wanted for my photographer. The church and reception center we just got luck with I guess haha.

Oh! Yes, I am having a 5 month engagement and I’m a senior in college! hahaha…but really, I think having the right perspective on the day is important as well when having a short engagement. It’s made me a lot more decisive and a LOT more grateful for the awesome people in my life who have been able to participate in the planning process. It makes it so much more fun that way! haha

Post # 13
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1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We were engaged for just over six months.  I think the biggest advice I have is to remember to scale down the crazy!  It’s easy to get overwhelmed, especially when you look at all of the details that some bees are able to whip together in 18 months.  And if I had taken 18 months, I might have been more overly ambitious.  I think 6 months helped me focus on what was (or was not) important to us.

Post # 14
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227 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My engagement will be 5 months. It was going to be a year, but two months in we scrapped our plans and changed the date and the state and part of the country – so it’s really 3 months of planning.

I think 3 months is perfect for US. We’re just having our immediate family at our wedding, and I’m happy that we don’t have to deal with all the stress of a big wedding. We’re having a casual reception after the wedding (since we’re getting married 800 miles away.)

I haven’t had any problems booking anything yet. It helps that we’re getting married on a Thursday. I did have to get my dress one size smaller in order to get it on time, but I started a new diet, upped my running regimen, and got the stomach flu so it fits great. ๐Ÿ™‚

I’m the type of person who overthinks things to death, and the more time I have to make a decision, the worse it goes. I will second-guess it until I’m down to the wire. This has forced me to say, OK, that’s good, let’s go with it, and I feel great about all the decisions I’ve made. Now I can’t imagine having the year-long engagement that we originally planned to have. I’d lose my damn mind if I had to think about this wedding for a year. Plus I think I’d spend WAY more money because I’d have time to buy every little extra thing I see!

I agree that having a short engagement helps us to really examine what our priorities are. We siimply don’t have time to worry about whether every little detail is perfect, and that’s ok. It’s going to be a great day!

 

Post # 15
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76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

LOL. For a second, before I read the post {And just glanced at the title} I thought you meant short in height. =P My bad!

Post # 16
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246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

i have an 8 motnh engagement and i SERIOUSLY could not take a long engagement.

my biggest personality flaw is being indecisive, so the longer i have, the longer i have to second guess myself.

i think i could have done it in less, but im almost there.

7 weeks to go and im still second guessing and obsessing over choices. i just need to stop questioning and go with my gut instincts.

 

bah!

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