Calling everyone who wrote their own vows

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@allyfally:  I just googled “sample officiant script” and a bunch came up, I’d look them over and pick one you like.  Here’s an example: http://ryanhupfer.com/wedding-ceremony-script/ but there are more depending on whether you want a religious or secular wedding.  Hope that helps!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@allyfally:  My dad was our officiant, so it was his first time too. But we looked up the traditional wedding ceremony and the usual components and tweaked it from there. Which included a reading from the bible that 2 of our friends did, our own vows, and the exchanging of rings. Google will be your best friend in this I believe!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My aunt married us, and I cobbled together what I lovingly referred to as the Frankenceremony using samples of different ones I found online (that’s how I found the bee!). We also wrote our own vows, and my husband’s vows were 100% my favorite part of getting married.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@likewoah:  +1, my husband reciting his vows was by far the best part. :]

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Some states require that specific things be said as part of the vows, such as the intent to marry, verbal agreement, stating the marriage to be legal by the officiant, etc. All of that info would be available when you get your license at the clerk of the circuit court (and possibly even on their site).

Honestly, you can say whatever you want in your vows… it depends on how traditional you want to go. Some people go very traditional, some go all out (like “I promise to kill the spiders” and “I promise to only ask you to watch one click flick a month”). It’s your day – make it about you!

Here is a copy of my vows, fairly traditional, but with a few things that we wrote together because they have a special meaning to us.

Introduction

“Dearly Beloved, We are gathered here today to celebrate one of life’s greatest moments. To give recognition to the worth and beauty of love, which shall unite (GROOM) and (BRIDE) in holy matrimony.”

“Who gives this woman to be married to this man?”

“Her mother and I.”

“Marriage offers opportunities for sharing and growth that no other human relationship can equal. It is a bold step into an unknown future, risking who we are for the sake of who we can be. Therefore, to make a marriage work takes more than just love. It takes trust – to know in your hearts that you want only the best for each other. It takes dedication – to stay open to one another, to learn and grow, even when it is difficult to do so. And it takes faith – to go forward together without knowing what the future holds for you both. When two people pledge to love and care for each other in marriage they create a spirit unique to themselves, which binds them closer than any spoken or written words. Marriage is a promise made in the hearts of two people in love, which takes a lifetime to fulfill.”

Vows

“(GROOM), do you take this woman to be your wife, to live together holy matrimony? To love, honor, and cherish her, to keep her in sickness and in health, for as long as you both shall live?”

“I do.”

“(BRIDE), do you take this man to be your husband to live together holy matrimony? To love, honor, and cherish him, to keep him in sickness and in health, for as long as you both shall live?”

“I do.”

“Repeat after me – I, (GROOM), take you, (BRIDE), to be my wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better and for worse, for richer and for poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do us part.”

“Repeat after me – I, (BRIDE), take you, (GROOM), to be my husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better and for worse, for richer and for poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do us part.”

Ring Exchange

“Wedding rings are an outward and visible sign of an inward spiritual grace, signifying to all the uniting of this man and this woman in marriage.”

“(GROOM), place this ring on (BRIDE)’s finger and repeat after me:

I give you this ring as a token of my love
and a symbol of my promise
to love you with all my heart, always and forever.
I promise to laugh and to cry with you,
to encourage and inspire you,
asking that you be no one other than yourself.
I give you my hand, my heart, and my unconditional love
from this day forward and all the days of my life.”

“(BRIDE), place this ring on (GROOM)’s finger and repeat after me:

I give you this ring as a token of my love
and a symbol of my promise
to love you with all my heart, always and forever.
I promise to laugh and to cry with you,
to encourage and inspire you,
asking that you be no one other than yourself.
I give you my hand, my heart, and my unconditional love
from this day forward and all the days of my life.”

Pronouncement of Marriage

“By the authority vested in me under the laws of the State of Florida, I now pronounce you husband and wife. You may kiss the bride.”

“May I introduce to you Mr. & Mrs.___________.”

 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Usually the more serious/traditional part of the ceremony includes 3 things: The Intent (do you take this person? I do.), The Vows (I vow to be faithful, etc.), and The Exchange of Rings (with this ring, I thee wed, etc.). There should be some sort of wording before those three – an introduction/welcome to ceremony, some readings, some sweet words about love, or whatever. And then you can word the intent, vows, and ring exchange however you want, depending on the mood of the ceremony. There are tons of examples of ceremony scripts online, so look around and get an idea of what wording suits you.

Post # 10
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Honey bee

@allyfally: We wrote our own personal vows to exchange and my aunt (who is not a minister/traditional officiant) performed the ceremony. I helped her write the entire ceremony. If you want to see what we did, feel free to PM me.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I also did a Frankenceremony cobbled together from posts here and other places in the Internet.  

We did a personal vow section (short and sweet, not too sappy) and then also recited a version of the traditional vows – we both wanted to say “I do” to those as well.

I wrote a post with our ceremonny text in case it could help other people, like previous bees’ posts about their ceremonies had helped me: 

http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/our-unplugged-unreligious-self-written-but-slightly-traditional-ceremony-script#axzz2mp82eQde

 

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper

There’s a difference between vows and a ceremony. Our officiant is writing a personalized ceremony and we are writing our own vows. I’ve never heard of an officiant writing vows before. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We had a similar situation- our officiant was a close friend of both of ours who got ordained and registered to marry us. She doesn’t plan on doing it again.

She wrote the opening remarks, we wrote our own vows, and then I worked with her to write the ring-exchange wording and she wrote closing remarks. We had our mothers split a reading we picked.  Our ceremony was super short (like less than 5 minutes) but it worked for us!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@allyfally:  We wrote our entire ceremony (except for the legal parts). It was pretty screwball, let me know if you want me to PM it to you? Bascially it was 20mins long, no religious parts, and the basic order was this:

-Celebrant welcomes guests and gives background of how we met and fell in love.

-Speaks about marriage, using anecdotes from our relationship

-Mentions immediate family (by name)

-Reading

-Legal mumbo-jumbo

-Vows and ring exchange

-Legal prouncement and kiss

-Signing, then introduction as married couple

 

For the vows it was the traditional ones, except my husband is obsessed with zombies so we made it – Do you take – to be your wife, to have and to hold from this day forward for better of for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish until death or zombies do you part?

I found offbeatbride to be very helpful, they have a few blog posts on writing your own vows/ceremony. 

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