Post # 1
My very loving beau has allowed me to shop for rings with him so that he can determine my style – once I have narrowed it down, he will surprise me with something that he has either found or custom-designed – Yay! I don’t wear rings usually, either because I have never had them properly sized or they seem to get in the way (I’ve never been much of a girly-girl).
I am also going into the field of physical therapy, either as an assistant or as a therapist, so I would be doing lots of massage with lotions, working with gel, and washing my hands a lot.
So here’s my question: if you work in a similar field, what have you decided to go with? Do you have an intricate ring and have it cleaned 1-2x/year professionally, do you have an ultrasonic cleaner at home, or did you go with a simpler style, and if so, do you still get it cleaned/polished? How much does it cost to have it cleaned and how often do you do it? We are probably going with a small-business artisan, not a big chain jewelry store, because of my uncommon material preferences, so I am currently assuming that ring cleanings are not included in the purchase price. Please post your pics!
So far, I have figured out that I would either want pure palladium, palladium-white gold, or silver-palladium alloys, since I don’t want to rhodium-plate and platinum is a bit heavy. I would like to know my ring is on my finger, but have it be so lightweight and comfy that I almost forget it’s on. I also want a low-set center stone of either grey tourmaline, grey spinel, grey diamond, or colorless diamond, that is fit so that it wouldn’t spin on my finger or rub against my other fingers (accomplishing this either with a ring guard wedding band or modifying the ring shape to more of a square, like the Stuart Moore shaped rings without the price tag).
Thank you in advance!
Post # 3
I am a stylist and my ring gets in the way sometimes. It spins, but honestly I’ve gotten used to it and just use my thumb to spin it back around. My ring has kind of a filligree design so the inside of it is kind of see through, and when I clean it sometimes its filled with hair (yeah, gross I know) I have a little jar of ring cleaner and I clean it every couple of weeks. We got my ring from Shane Co and as part of the warranty you go in every 6 months for cleaning and inspection (at no extra charge).
Post # 4
I’m a massage therapist and I take my ring off for work, although it’s a solitaire I don’t like the idea of the lotion getting on it, also it would be in the way since the stone is pretty big. Some therapists wear theirs on a chain around their neck at work, so it’s another option if you don’t want to clean it all the time.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I work outside in the spring and summer – my hands get super dirty and dusty. Once I’m married, I plan to wear just my plain etched band while doing field work, and both rings during other times.
Ive read that using a bit of dish soap and a soft toothbrush to lightly scrub your ring is a great way to clean it – and mine looks soooo much more shiny and sparkly when I do that! So you don’t have to always be taking it in to be cleaned,fyi
Post # 6
I work in the medical field. Since I take on and off gloves like crazy I wanted something that would stay put. I just wash my hands before and after every patient and it stays relatively clean. Every few weeks I clean it with a brush. Also i do alot of outdoor activities, never had a problem.
Post # 7
I’m a big fan of intricate settings, so no solitaires…I prefer halos with filigree, etc. Of course if you work with your hands, you might want something that will pass the test of your lifestyle. I’m a teacher so don’t particularly work with my hands but I do keep my rings on all the time, working out, showering, sleeping, etc. It hurts my knuckles to keep taking on and off 😉
My first e-ring didn’t pass the test, and the stone kept getting loose. Really annoying. I changed it to a flower double halo ring in which the center stone has 10 prongs and is set into the halo that surrounds it. It’s been great so far! I did lose a medium-sized stone but I have a protection plan that covers it 😉
The ring that wasn’t secure enough. Smoky quartz cushion cut.
My ring!! Love!
Post # 8
Thank you ladies! All of your insight is really helping me decide what’s important to me and is making my decision easier.
@melitabonita: your ring is gorgeous! do you have a closeup photo of your ring? I would love to be able to see the detail of it.
@lolot: I like yours too! That is a good idea about leaving the band on and removing the e-ring. I am considering doing this, which would mean that I would have to consider not getting a matched set, or getting a separate band – definitely an option…
@skipanther: your ring is the closest in style to what I have been considering thus far for practicality’s sake. I love it! It matches my obsession with low-maintenance jewelry – since I am going to be wearing it daily, I want it to be comfy and practical! Where did you get yours, or did you or your FH custom-design it?
@NikkiS: thank you for your feedback! I have a very eclectic taste, so it has been difficult narrowing down the choices between details – yesterday, I found a jeweler who has designed a ring that has everything from the classic pave with milgrain and free-flowing swirls bypassing each other, which I love (sorry, I don’t have a photo!). Both of your rings are lovely. If I may ask, did the jeweler say why your smoky quartz kept coming loose? I am a bit concerned with grey tourmaline (Mohs hardness of 7) versus grey spinel (8?) vs. white sapphire (9) or moissanite (9.25) or grey or colorless diamond (10).
I love all the wonderful responses from all of you ladies! It is currently very helpful to see from multiple viewpoints! I can’t wait to hear what other bees have to say too!
Post # 9
I choose other! Mine is intricate but I don’t clean it too often either. I asked DH to get something low set since I wear gloves and I don’t want the stone getting caught. I’d recommend 6 prong setting for strength!
Post # 10
I’m currently in med school, so I was looking for something that wouldn’t rip gloves are get too dingy with frequent hand washings but I just fell in love with my intricate ring with all its nooks and crannies for dirt and grime to hide in! Lol I wouldn’t change it for the world now that I have it though. a family friend who’s an archeologist and works on object restoration in a museum (including ancient jewellery) gave me an amazing tip for cleaning that I now swear by : use a soft tooth brush and some of the original noxzema to clean. The peppermint oils do wonders on the ring! I do it about once every week or two and couldn’t be happier!
Post # 11
@FutureFoxWife: Thank you for the tip! Thankfully, I don’t have to wear gloves all the time, but I do have long curly hair that I’m sure would get caught, so low-setting for me it is! I had been wondering about the difference between 4 and 6 prong, so now I will also keep the 6-prong setting in mind 🙂
@dv3849: oh my gosh, thank you! and thanks to your friend! I will be having some noxzema on hand – and I love the smell of peppermint oil 🙂 hail science!
Post # 12
I am a nurse and I have a more intricate setting with halo and pave diamonds. My main concern was that the stone be set low so that it doesn’t snag on my gloves all the time. I am pleased with it but I may just wear my band at work after we are married. I haven’t decided. Depending on what setting you work in, your ring may not even affect what you do. If you are in a clinic, you will rarely use gloves and if you need to apply a gel or lotion, you can just put your ring in your pocket.If you end up in the hospital, you will end up gloving up and doing more heavy lifting more often.
Post # 13
@devinthebrave: thank you for the information. So far, I have only worked in outpatient settings, so knowing about wearing gloves at inpatient settings is important. I am thinking that I will want to work in outpatient, but I suppose to keep my options open, I may also consider ring guards/jackets as well, as one physical therapist told me that it keeps her rings from spinning… I just haven’t tried on a set or seen a modern version of one… pros and cons?
Post # 14
@MsLiveOak: I have heard that just putting a band along with the engagement ring helps too. My biggest piece of advice is don’t do a high set solitaire. That will be such a pain.
As ar as cleaning, I just use a conventional liquid jewelry cleaner. The girl at the jewelry store actually told me the ultrasonic ones aren’t any better at doing the job.
Good luck in your career. My FI hopes to do the same thing as soon as he finishes undergrad. It’s a long road but well worth it.
Post # 15
My hands can be in anything from 95% ethanol to frog guts or swamp water on any given workday. My solution is a simple one, I simply do not wear my e-ring. I wore it the first few days after I got it to show it off to my coworkers and after that, I started leaving it at home. I am going to have a very plain and sturdy wedding ring that I do not plan on taking off at all.
Post # 16
@devinthebrave: Thank you, I agree that high settings were the first that I eliminated for that reason lol. I’m about where your FI is right now: deciding between PTA and PT, just depends on money vs. time as to whether I become a PTA first and get my undergrad after, then go onto DPT, or go straight and accumulate more debt. I’m thinking that I will apply to both PTA and BS programs and see where I get accepted, then go from there. What is your FI’s plan?