- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
SO and I have had a series of very long, intense discussions the past few days about our wedding planning experience and what is really important to us in regards to our wedding day and realized that while we wanted a lot of the same things; we both have very different ways of going about it.
This has led to tiffs and arguments and hurt feelings over…well, just really stupid stuff that ultimately, in the huge scheme of things, really doesn’t matter.
We both decided that we didn’t like what it was doing to us and our relationship. All of the budget balancing and the intense planning was running its toll on the both of us.
It would have basically been impossible for us to plan the sort of wedding we wanted with all of the things that were really important to us (most importantly, spending time with our friends and family), for the 125 guests that we were inviting.
This led to, “Well, lets cut the guest list then to those people who really matter to us.”
After we cut out co-workers and cousins and aunts and uncles this gave us a whopping guest list of 25 people.
“Well, shoot, we could get married anywhere with only 25 people…”
And so, we decided..
We are officially calling off the Big Fucking Wedding and instead having a Destination Wedding with only those people who matter the most to us.
And I am officially super excited!!
We’ve run the idea by just about everyone in our guest list and not only was everyone okay with it, they were actually excited about it! It was a much better reception (no pun intended) than expected.
I know this means a lot of sacrifices and compromises with the stuff that we had originally wanted (visiting with more distant relatives, brewing our own beer and liquors, a bouncy house and a potluck cake table) but ultimately, we feel that it’s better for just about everyone involved.
Now, we just have to worry about how to make it up to those people who AREN’T involved.
We had thought that maybe we could make our rounds in the following months to visit with them as husband and wife for the first time along with a webcast (if available) of the ceremony so that people might feel a little more involved…
But those are just ideas….has anyone ever heard of a webcast ceremony (outside of Vegas) and seen how it was recieved??