Post # 1
Some of you may have seen previous posts of mine about when my GF might propose or how disappointed I was when I thought we had found my dream ring and it was no longer for sale.
In the last couple weeks, after finding the ring, being devastated that it was on an old website and was no longer for sale, finding a similar ring, getting in a huge fight because my GF felt pressured to buy it that day and she told me she thought she had at least another year (WHAT!?!) before I expected a proposal, and then agreeing to just drop the topic of marriage, engagements, and rings all together. . .
She brought it up again and we found THE ring. A beautiful estate piece that was rediculously under budget. She bought it the next day. And I’m pretty sure she got it delivered to either her work or one of her collegues houses. I’m pretty sure she probably already has it. And I’m so calm.
It’s as though all of my craziness about what her intentions were and if she was really serious about our relationship and our future have completely melted away. I’m just so happy and I just love and appreciate her so much.
Have any other bees experienced this? Is this the calm before the storm? I feel like things were so crazy and now it’s just smooth sailing. What lies ahead in this process?
Post # 3
@sellison27: First of all, congrats!! Very exciting, and I look forward to hearing your proposal story when the time comes 🙂
We are not engaged yet, but the ring has been selected and he plans (so he says) to buy it “sometime this month” and our timeline is until end of August, so it’s fast approaching. I’m having the opposite reaction: I’m getting even MORE anxious than I was before :-/ Not in a negative way, but just feeling on edge wondering when he’s going to spring it on me 🙂
Post # 4
Congratulations on the ring purchase!
I am also at this state. Now that I know he’s for sure going to propose in the next couple months, I’m really just basking in all the love.
And he’s made it really easy because I just feel so loved all the time right now. You know how people say that SOs get really sweet right before they propose? This weekend he:
1. Bought me flowers for no reason.
2. Made me an amazing dinner he knew I would love (Bacon wrapped cajun scallops over spinach and rice – yum!)
3. Washed my car for me. Didn’t even mention it, just saw him outside washing it.
4. Took care of our dog all night while she was sick and let me sleep.
5. Let me pick the movie without complaining that it was a chick flick.
I’m just so thrilled with our relationship and where it’s going. Can’t help but want to cuddle up to him all the time and just sigh with happiness.
Post # 5
@badabing88: I wonder if once you know he actually has it things will change for you. Up until I knew she made the purchase I was almost paralyzed with anxiety about all the variables. But congratulations. I can’t say I know exactly when she will do it – I seriously hope she was just trying to throw me off when she said she thought she had a year. . . .
Post # 6
@DreamingofDiamonds: Sounds like you have a great guy! My GF is alwas pretty sweet to me and lately the only things that have been out of the ordinary are that she always looks at me and says, “You really love me, don’t you?” and she took Friday off work and made me a hair appointment for that morning. But I really need a haircut and decided to give her stylist a try so I don’t want to read too much into that. I have a feeling your proposal is going to come soon! Those are just wayyy too sweet and often for there not to be something extra going on!
Post # 7
I am totally in this place. Ring was purchased in feb and it was like this whole weight had been lifted! Like I know he’s saved his ass off, he’s got the ring, he’s going to propose! I was no longer worrying about him spending his money because he needed to save, no longer worried about making the purchase, no longer worried that he’d drag his feet for another year or 2, playing house. I don’t resent him for doing his laundry when he is playing Xbox (ok still a bit but less!) because I know he’s going to really commit to me. And in response to me being so much more chilled, he started helping out around the house, bought me flowers TWICE! (He never buys me flowers) and we just started having more fun! Amazing what a ring can do 😉
Post # 8
@Corgi-cariad: I’m so glad this seems to be a normal part of the process! Congratulations to you on your future proposal also!! And yes, it IS amazing what a ring can do – even if it isn’t anywhere near our fingers!!
Post # 9
@Corgi-cariad: THIS! +1!
I am also in this situation as I know he ordered it two weeks ago because we had a mold sent so we could see the setting we chose to make sure I liked it as much as I thought I did. I don’t know when he will pick it up or when he will propose but I feel like a huuuuuuuuge weight was lifted. He had talked about proposing a year ago, but he wanted to pay cash for my ring and didn’t want to finance so it has been a LONG process of saving. We also got a house and had to pay for oil for the first time in our lives (INSANE…don’t buy houses ever…ahahaha) and alllll the time I would just be so angry that we couldn’t do things together that we both wanted to because we knew we shouldn’t be spending money that could go towards the ring. We went out last weekend and had dinner and drinks and it just felt SO good to not stress about it. This probably sounds so dramatic and I’m sure some people would say “then you shouldn’t have wanted that ring!” but in reality, waiting sucks. Saving for a ring puts so much pressure on the SO and they feel guilty spending money and it’s just a pain in the rear.
Then there’s that whole aspect of just knowing FOR SURE that they are committed and actually want to be married. It feels wonderful. So excited for you both and can’t wait to hear about hte proposal!