Calm or manic?

posted 3 years ago in August 2013
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@RainStorm:Trying to play it cool on the outside, but definitely stressing on the inside. I’m telling myself that once my summer school class is done at the end of this week, I’ll have more time to focus and get organized and hence, be less stressed. We’ll see. Good Job fooling ’em all! 🙂

 

 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I didn’t plan on being stressed – but I solve all of my logistics problems by talking about them (usually with my mom and dad).

Hoenstly, I don’t know why I am feeling stressed at all – I am pretty on schedule with my DIY’s and the coordination. For some reason I just *feel* like I am missing something.

I am also pretty organized – almost to the point of too much (some have said). I have my timelines, calendars, phone number lists, budgets, layouts (for the farm, tents and tables), to-do lists, photog shot lists, guest lists, etc etc etc all stored in a one note. For compelete transparency (because both sets are helping to set-up, pay, coordinate things) I have a packet that I print out updates for every few weeks for my MOB and FMIL.

I don’t want to be stressed – but I know for a fact that I don’t look calm – closest thing to that is when I hear ‘you look tired’ lol

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

Internally I’m kind of a wreck.  I’ve been fucking up deadlines at work, we are closing on a house and moving at the end of this week (wtf!?  yeah, we were supposed to close a month ago to avoid this) and of course all this little wedding stuff.  I think at work and stuff I just look tired.

FI knows I’m busted though – the other day I almost cried because we were laminating door signs and got a crease in one.  I’m an idiot LoL.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@suburbian:  Would you mind sending me your timelines and shots list? 

I’m fine as far as planning goes, but I wish that other people would get their shit together. I had to cut down and send my cousin MY invitation to my bridal shower because my grandma only had part of them (??) and FI’s stepmom is out of town and couldn’t do it until this week sometime. I said fuck it and just cut down the HUGE one she chose that I got in the mail and dropped it in an envelope that I had.

Oh, and FI’s brother, the one who told us they might not make it to the wedding because of money, and then randomly showed up at his little brother’s graduation party…showed up on our doorstep last night. Now, we don’t have people over ever (no room), but especially not around dinner time on a work night. FI went out to figure out dinner, and I’m in the computer room in just my underwear, and I hear some noise (we had fans going), so I look out in to the hallway–topless, mind you–and oh, his brother and sister in law are in our fucking apartment. Godfuckingdammit. I locked myself in the back room and texted FI to tell them to get the fuck out of my house.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’ve been told that I’m so organized also, and I don’t know why they think that because I’m a complete melty mess. I don’t know how we have 119 people coming to our wedding. What are we, celebrities?!?  This is craziness.

I’m also a total mess at work. I’m on a high protein diet to lose weight and I feel like I’m just “GRR” towards my boss for taking work away from me, even though (1) It’s nice of him and (2) it’s necessary since I’ll be out of the office for two weeks.

Why didn’t we just elope?!?

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@vorpalette:  lol – my timelines were extrapolated from yours 🙂 But yes I will send them.

The shot list is just a list of my family and the order they appear. I am planning on giving out the family shot list, my ‘call anyone but the bride’ emg contact list, the day of timeline during the rehearsal dinner.

Then for my MOB, MOG and MOH I will have a layout packet (that shows tent and table layouts) so they can help me to delegate and help me to decorate. MOG has two friends coming in from out of town to help with details and I have two aunts, my mom, and all of my bridesmaids that will be there helping to set up the tables and get the bunting and lights strung.

I figured getting help to keep an army of industrious women occupied is going to take at least all four of us. I feel like this tranparency has helped me feel a little more calm about the whole ‘set-up’ day.

So sorry to hear about your weirdo BIL. Will they actually be staying with you? I thought you didn’t trust him in your house that long? Is FI getting them out?

And I know what you mean about getting their sh*t together – I had to help out way mroe then planned on my bach invites (as in designed, printed, stuffed) and will probably have to do the same for the shower invites (tonight)…since they. are. still. not. done. (The shower is Aug 2nd) Blech.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@suburbian:  Thank you <3

No no no, they are NOT staying with us. Ever. Apparently BIL got mandatory time off at work, so they decided to drive up here–not sure when they got here or how they paid for it, since they tell everyone they have no money–and dropped by last night and left this morning. FI told them that they couldn’t stay long because I had to work this morning and we hadn’t eaten dinner yet, so they left in about 15 minutes. I’m sure they spent all weekend with his wife’s parents and didn’t bother to stop and see his mom until last night after she was probably asleep like they always do. 

Had they shown up to stay, I would have marched out there and thrown them out.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@RainStorm:  Pretty calm. My to-do list is down to 10 items tops! I don’t have to do much at this point but show up to the events on my calendar. My one DIY project is complete.

I have one last major item and that includes sorting the RSVPs, getting numbers to the caterer, and getting the placecards printed. That’s it. So I’m calm…and just waiting.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m fairly calm but mostly I don’t really care anymore. I have a to-do list mostly of things that I just need to finalize or pick up a few extras of. I am just ready for the next 2.5 weeks to fly by.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I’m feeling stress-bunny Frown  We’re hosting a big DIY BBQ welcome dinner for anyone who’s in town the night before, and that’s a lot of work to plan for.  Our venue needs to be entirely set up by us and whatever friends/family we can rally on Friday and Saturday mornings which is stressful to plan out.  I still have to paint a buttload of barnwood signs and the table seating windows, and a bunch of other last-minute projects.

AND, I’m leaving August 4 to go work 70-80 hrs/week out of town until the week of the wedding!  So yeah, kinda stressful.  But my sweet FI is really stepping up to the plate which is a huge help.  And I think I’m playing it cool to everyone besides my parents and fiance… gotta keep up the illusion!  

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