Post # 1
I’m getting married in Sept 09 in a traditional, LOOOOONGGGG Cambodian ceremony that is going to last all day on a Saturday. I’m worried about my how my fiance, his family, and my friends are going to handle being involved in such a long ceremony– any suggestions for time management, how to make the day go by smoother, and how to make sure noone is bored or exhausted?
Post # 3
i’ve never been a cambodian wedding that took all day..i know it’s long but it starts in the morning and ends at 1pm? rehearse everything so it’s not "a’ngei a’ngai" during the ceremony. does your fiance and wedding party speak khmer? if not, explain as much as you can about what everything done symbolizes and what actions are to be done. rehearsing it, is the only way things will go smoothly.
at cambodian weddings, guests are free to step outside as they please as it’s not considered rude, let your non-khmer guests know that.
you should print programs for non-khmer guests so they can keep up with the ceremony and not feel left out or clueless.
as long as it’s not stuffy and temperature is perfect, guests won’t complain.
Post # 4
I am Khmer, but I am not having a Cambodian wedding ceremony (thank-the-goodness, my parents are modern, so they have no preference). However, there is usually an elder who is the coordinator – I always see someone, usually an aunt of someone, who directs all the traditional stuff throughout the ceremony. You know, when the groom makes the pilgrimage to your house, tells you that you have to wash his feet, etc, etc. Once you figure out who this person is, you should ask them about the flow of the day, and how many people will be involved. Ask your parents too, because they may know.
Good luck with it – I do feel sad that I don’t get to wear those traditional Cambodian outfits with all the gold. Enjoy!
Post # 4
Having someone(elder usually) run the ceremony for you is so much easier. We have a Cambodian wedding ceremony coordinator in San Jose who is amazing. Sim will be doing our wedding next year.