Post # 1
Hi fellow Bees 🙂
Been lurking here for a while and finally took the plunge! I’ve laughed so much reading all the crazy waiting stories (man it is HARD!!)
Been with the SO for 8 years. We met when we were 19 and have enjoyed growing up together. We always wanted to take it slow and are exactly where we’re meant to be right now so I’m not in the “having doubts about the future” stage or feeling sad about how long it has taken to get here.
I am more in the “home stretch” stage of knowing that we’re both ready and it’s gonna happen probably within the year (eep!)
But man even when you know that you’re both there and it’s just a matter of the when/where/how, waiting is so hard sometimes! It can turn you into the brattiest, most unladylike specimen and you really gotta work hard to control yourself
I’ve had a few minor meltdowns – usually when I see the “so and so is engaged to so and so” fb annoucements of people who just met a year ago (the sane part of me knows this is irrational and unfair and everybody has their own journey but for a moment you question “why isn’t that me? why could he pull it together that quickly and my guys still working on his plan?”)
I’m just trying to really enjoy this time of anticipaion and excitement because once it happens this phase is over! In the meantime I seriously need to shut it up because so many of our friends are getting married and we inevitably end up having the tipsy “when we get married…” convos at which point I go a bit overboard woops!
So hi fellow waiting bees and engaged bees please give me some sage advice on how to wait more gracefully 🙂
Post # 3
@Brownbear23: No sage advice, (you seem to have already mastered waiting gracefuly) but wanted to welcome you to the Hive!
Post # 4
@julies1949: Wow thank you I must have made myself sound saner than I’ve been feeling haha!
I’m ok with taking so long to get here but now I’m feeling a bit impatient and always half listening out for clues and trying to guess his plan.
I’d guess I’m driving my SO round the bend dropping hints about rings and he can tell when I get a bit disheartened by other engagements and I don’t want him feeling bad. I want it to be lovely and not a big relief for both of us and I know it’s really important to him to surprise me.
So that’s why it’s great to finally be on the bee, I will be using this as a place to vent to save him and my friends from my wedding beast 🙂
Post # 5
@Brownbear23: you sound like my twin
i’m in an 8 year relationship (so far). I remember the first time an engagement announcement struck me in my little green heart…lol
Strange thing, after an engagement announcement was made of fb, my SO made a comment saying “how could he be engaged and i’m not”. I was thinking that that was my exact sentiments so I capitalized on the moment and told him that he could make it happen (with a few extra words).
Advice: vent on Weddingbee then grin and bare it in real life. Try not to nag SO too. And do exactly what you said and try and enjoy this stage of the whole process.
Post # 6
I haven’t had tht prombem… yet I’ve been with my SO 7+ years ( 8 years in December) and yes i’ll admit sometimes I’m like when is it going to happen but so far a really I’ve been good. A really good friend got engaged few days ago and I’m soo thankful there is no little green eye monster lurking about lol. And I know for a fact another friend will be engaged between November and December of this year my SO is making them a romantic dinner( he is workign he way up to be a chef) and everything for whenever it happens. I’ve had a pushy moment once..yesturday but it wasn’t as bad as I may think it was because SO wasn’t put off or felt pressured over tht convo. Anywhoo I like when ppl are excited but this sane we should enjoy this time as much as we can because no matter how long it takes when we get there we’ll be liek where did the time go?? Godd uck with everything and happy waiting.