Post # 1
Hey ladies. I’m from Downeast Maine so camping has always been a huge part of my life. One of the best weekends in my relationship we went camping over Columbus Day. So we really want to do a camping wedding. We are going to do a s’mores bar but with tons of different kinds of candy bars (one of our favorite things to try when we camp is new campy in a s’more) and tons of other camp type stuff.
I’ve been thinking about the seating situation. Since we will be doing a campfire (probably multiple camp fires honestly) we were trying to figure out the seating situation. Since we will be inviting our guests to join us for camping do people think it would be rude to ask them to bring their own camping chairs (if they have them)? I would specify on the invites somewhere to please bring camping chairs and to let us know if you didn’t have them. I have tons of family who are into camping so I know they all have their own chairs and would also be willing to bring others to share for people who don’t have them.
I just think camping chairs make the most sense since they can be easily moved from the eating area to the campfire and are actually way more comfortable than folding chairs most people rent at a wedding. If we had the money I’d buy a ton in bulk and make them be our favors, but we unfortunately don’t. Also I think since it’s a campground wedding the campground chairs would add to the feel of camping.
So my ultimate question is:
Would it be rude to ask people to bring their own chairs considering the nature of the wedding if we are still willing to provide chairs if people can’t bring them?
Post # 3
You could do something cute on the invite like BYOC (bring your own chair). I personally wouldn’t mind bringing my own. 🙂
Post # 4
I really think chairs are one of those things that a host is obligated to provide for her guests.
Post # 5
@Danni32388: Oooh that is a cute idea!
Post # 6
@merpitymerp: I’ve been worried about that, but I also have been to casual weddings where there is no seating for the ceremony, and then they provide those awful cheap folding chairs that are super uncomfortable. SO while I agree it is the hosts responsibility I personally would rather bring my own comfy chair if I had one, then sit in one of those.
Post # 7
I love camping and I wouldn’t mind bringing my own chair and hauling it around. People aren’t expected to dress nice for the wedding right? Because if I’m hauling a chair around I expect to be in jeans or something.
Post # 8
A camp wedding would have different rules for say a wedding in a hall, so yes seating is usually provided by the host but like you mentioned folding chairs aren’t 100% comfortable (not to mention stable depending on the camp site ground) and neither is buying a camping chair for every guest. I wouldn’t mind bringing one at all, sounds like it would be a fun wedding to attend!
Post # 9
A couple thoughts.
I don’t think camp chairs would work well at a table. At least not the ones I have (the kind that fold up into a bag). You sit too far back in them and it would be difficult to eat from the table. So, I wouldn’t be particularly happy to be expected to eat at a table while sitting in my camp chair. I’d probably end up picking up my plate and eating from my lap as that’s easier in my camp chair!
For non eating, I think it’s totally awesome to use camp chairs and I think it would be fine to ask guests, who can, to bring some. I would spread the request with word of mouth rather than putting anything on the invitiation. People traveling long distances probably won’t be able to, so you don’t want to make them feel bad for not bringing a chair. So if your close friends and family have extra, they should totally bring them. But camp chairs around the campfire sounds like a great wedding to me!
Post # 10
@nattiejeanne: Usually I’d say the bride & groom are responsible for seating, but since you say it’s a casual camping wedding and those are pretty normal in your area I’d go for it! DH & I love camping and have 2-3 really sweet camping chairs we take everywhere and another maybe 2 that are just okay- in reality we would have brought them whether you asked or not if camping is the name of the game! I would encourage you to maybe pickup some extra’s yourself though for the people that don’t have chairs to bring so they have something comfy as well…
Post # 11
@nattiejeanne: I think
@JenGirl: has the right idea. You should reach out to close friends / family with camping chairs and collect the camping chairs ahead of time. Then figure out what you’d need to buy for the rest of the guests. Your guests shouldn’t be responsible for their own seating at your wedding.
I have a similar conundrum in that some of my guests will have picnic blanket seating, and others will have tables. I’m providing both seating options and will get a rough count of who wants what beforehand.
Post # 12
@kes18: No people wouldn’t be expected to be dressed up, it would be a very casual wedding for sure!
@bdockery: That is what I was thinking regarding the “rules of etiquette” around weddings, a camping wedding really can’t accomodate all of those rules.
@JenGirl: I will have to test them out first. I’ve used the folding kind in the bag at a table with no problem, but I guess it depends on the table. I am probably going to have my dad build really long tables for us so we can all sit in long rows. I would definitely make sure it was going to be feasible and work though with multiple types of chairs before I committed to this. Thanks for thinking of that!
Post # 13
@BeckyS0: We would DEFINITELY still buy quite a few extras to bring, plus I would ask family and friends that I’m close to to bring extras to share and just make sure they labeled them first. I am pretty confident between us providing some and asking people who we knew might have extras to bring them we would have plenty. .
Post # 14
If it’s camp chairs for the camp fire, I think the “BYOC” thing is fine, I’m assuming they have to bring SOME camping gear anyway?
If it’s camp chairs for dining at a table no I think you’d need to bring chairs in.
Post # 15
@nattiejeanne: Yeah, try it out. Usually the problem is that the arms of the chairs don’t fit under the table so you can’t scoot forward to be able to reach your plate. All that being said, if it’s a causal wedding, I don’t have a problem eating off my lap while sitting around the campfire! It can definitely work, just takes some figuring out!
Post # 16
@bitsybee: We are only inviting close family and friends and they are all really understanding of our personality and styles otherwise I wouldn’t even consider this as an option. It would be more like a big group camping weekend where we also just happened to get married. And it would be better than regular camping because we are going to provide things like firewood, smores supplies, snacks, drinks, and hotdogs and such. I was thinking of doing like a smores gift bag for each guest and then a supple package of hot dogs, buns, condiment packets, waters, etc. for each group he decide to stay and camp!