Can a destination be too hard to get to? (Long)

posted 3 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
42089 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@KatB442:  If I loved you and had enough notice, I would attend. If you do save the dates, you could give a bit more information than normal, so your potential guests have more time to plan.

Is it your intent that all the guests would stay at the lodge? Are you able to buy out the whole lodge?

You could consider chartering  a bus to bring people from the airport to the lodge. If the lodge is remote, there is probably little or no need for a car once  they arrive, so the only challenge is getting them there. They are obviously not going to all arrive on the same flight, but given that it is a 1.5 to 2 hr drive from either airport, the bus could make two trips.

You don’t necessarily need to pay for the bus. If you let them know that a bus was available at a cost of ____, it would likely be less expensive than renting a car.

Is there anything near the airport that could keep your guests occupied while they waited for the shuttle bus?

Post # 4
2501 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@KatB442:  I think I am in the rare camp where I like DWs. We almost had one. The people who really want to be there will be there. If this is what you want to do, then go for it! Some people will like the idea of making a little trip out of it. Just be prepared to have some people not be able to make it.


My brother had a DW in Memphis ( my whole family is from chicago, and all of their friends are spread out all over the US) and honestly while it was more expensive, I had an amazing time! Don’t regret it at all. It gave me a good reason to see a new city also

Post # 5
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@KatB442:  We rented a cabin and had people come in from all states, we offered rooms for those who would struggle to find a place on their own. Could you offer anything like that for the people you REALLY want to attend? 

If I was invited and had enough time to plan/was close with you then I would definitely come! Be prepared to have a smaller guest list but also be prepared to have a ver intimate wedding!

This place sounds beautiful and perfect for you 🙂 

Post # 6
2501 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I should also add I regret not having a DW for us! haha 🙂

Post # 7
6812 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

If there is any way you can pay for their transportation from the airport to the hotel, I would say this isn’t a problem at all. If not, I can see people being annoyed.

Here’s my response would be:

She wants me to FLY there, then RENT A CAR and DRIVE TWO hours?! OMG, she’s nuts. Well, whatever it’s her wedding and it’s once in a lifetime. *Starts booking process*

But apparently going to someone’s wedding is a priority to me whereas it isn’t to others. I do think it’s asking a lot, but if it’s what you want, just be prepared for some people not to be able to make it (as with any DW).

Post # 10
2501 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@KatB442:  🙂 what you are planning sounds amazing! This is your day so if you want a DW, than have one! It will be much more memorable to your guests as well 🙂

Post # 13
2065 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’m attending a good friends wedding in a remote location.  It definitely is going to be expensive to attend, but because she is a close friend and she has special reasons for her wedding location, and I can’t wait!  You probably won’t get as many acquaintances, but who cares.  

Post # 14
2338 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016


We went to a remote location for a friends wedding last year, in MN, at the Lake of The Woods (I think. I don’t remeber exactly, but it was up near there) It was about a 6 hour drive for us in ND, and half of it was on back gravel roads with no cell phone serivce (which was the worst part!). They paid for lodging and food for the whole weekend, which was nice! They rented out the entire lodge, and everyone had cabins (we shared a two bed room cabin with a set of friends of ours). They had home made food all weekend- sandwhiches, cheese and meat trays, hot dogs and hamburgers on Friday, and then a huge BBQ meal on Saturday night (wedding night). We had a lot of fun. They warned us in advance to bring snacky food, or if we had any food allergies what was being served, and the invite explained the whole weekend outline. 

They also had a shuttle for people who flew in, from I belive Bemidji but it may have been else where. WE didn’t use it, so I didn’t remember. The main thing was that they had everything offered for people so they didn’t have to “camp” to be at their wedding. If we had to supply our own food, we wouldn’t have gone.

Post # 16
603 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

As a general rule, my feeling about DW is that you as a bride have every right to hold your wedding wherever you would like, and your guests have every right to decline the invitation if it is too difficult for them to attend.  In your specific situation since it really is difficult for people to attend, it is very understandable that your brother and others may decline.  You seem to have completely accepted this potential outcome, so you should go ahead and have the wedding of your dreams.  I hope it is a wonderful event.

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