Can a marriage still be happy without regular sex???

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

In a word, yes. The problems start when one or both partners are not getting enough I guess. If both are not having a problem with the amount, even if it seems low by some peoples standards, it’s a non issue. 

I don’t buy for a second the amount of sex people claim to be having frankly. So don’t worry about comparing yourself.

If you feel like your or his drive is abnormally low and it’s an issue, then it may be cause for concern medically. Other than that I would not worry about it. I find going through a dry spell is normal and many of my lady friends talk about them with me. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MrsTee:  Don’t feel pressure! Regular sex is generally a subjective term. If you guys are still going strong and totally committed, I don’t think you have much to worry about. I think a lot of people have a made up view of a normal sex life and if they feel like they’re falling short they get worried. How often do you have sex now?  

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I think you’re marriage should be fine as long as you two are happy together. Don’t let othwe people’s rules of “regular sex” define you. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MrsTee:  Oh okay. Well I honestly think that as long as one of you (or both for that matter) aren’t constantly feeling unfulfilled it’s fine. If you were feeling like your advances were denied and he wasn’t attentive to your needs unless it was on his time, then you’d have an issue…or if it was vice versa. You said you would have sex every other day, but is it because that’s how much you actually want to or because that’s what seems normal to you? 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MrsTee:  We don’t have regular sex (maybe once every two weeks), and we’re perfectly fine. Most of it is because we’re exhausted!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

As long as you’re both happy with that arrangement and that you keep communication open it should be fine. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m with the PP’s who say that as long as you’re both happy with the amount and there’s open communication then it’s fine 🙂

Post # 13
cherrypieBee
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008 - A tiny town just outside of Glacier National Park

Well, yes, of course, as long as both partners’ needs are being met. If your emotional needs and needs for physical contact are satisfied and you don’t have a sex drive, or don’t want to have sex for other reasons, there’s no need to do it just to meet some kind of imagined quota. Sex is healthy, but it’s not a requirement for a healthy relationship! (Heck, there are plenty of people who identify as “asexual” and seek completely sexless relationships as a preference. I’m not saying this is you, but it takes all types!)

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

As long as both individual’s needs are being met, I don’t think it matters how much sex you are having. But if an individual’s needs are not being met because the other one has a low sex drive, then that can be a problem. And also, if your husband used to want to have sex frequently, and then suddenly he’s barely asking for it anymore, I would be concerned. But if he was always like that, and you are find with the amount of sex you are having now, then no worries.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: Either Philadelphia City Hall or a small chapel.

As long are yous okay with that. 

Me & FI are usually 4-5 days a week. 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: Either Philadelphia City Hall or a small chapel.

I’d also be a little concerned a 23 year old guy has a low sex drive. Ny dude’s turning 31 next year.

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