Post # 1
My Fiance really wants two things: to be married by a Priest and to be married either on the beach or under a big tree. Is it possible to be married by a priest outside of the physical church?
Post # 3
@Ksmurf: check with your Church… the Catholic Church (at least in my area) is pretty strick about where they marry people… a chuch, specifically your church (or a church in which at least one of you is a member).
Post # 4
In short, no.
If you’re dead set on having some sort of ceremony outside, you can apply for a dispensation. Or you can have the sacrament in the church and then have a sort of renewal ceremony (for family and your “wedding”) outdoors.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House
From what I’ve heard, all of the weddings need to be in the Church where the red-light-eucharist thing is present (forget the name…).
I’m pretty sure I’ve heard of couples using ex-Catholic Priests, to get around this though!
Post # 6
@eagle: Eucharist is the correct term. Host is also okay.
OP, if you want a Catholic marriage and you follow Catholic teachings, it should be a no brainer. if you’re not partial to the church and don’t see yourself having a Catholic marriage, then just have a different denomination perform your marriage?
In Catholicism, marriage is a sacrament– akin to baptism, confirmation, etc etc– it’s not something that just happens out in a field or on a beach. I don’t mean to say I haven’t seen beautiful ceremonies in all kinds of places, to each their own and I’ll be there with bells on to support my friends whereever they choose to go. I just mean that if you’re trying to have a Catholic marriage, you start in the church.
Post # 7
you could have two ceremonies, a formal one w/the Eucharist in church, and an intimate casual one on the beach (w.o priest).
Post # 8
Isn’t the “red light Eucharist thing” the tabernacle?
And yeah, priests don’t do outdoor weddings.
Post # 10
Actually, I think a woman I know found a way to do this. She’s a catholic, but got married at a place near the beach.
I believe she found a priest who had left the priesthood to get married, etc, but still performs marriages in a legal capacity. So what she did was had her officiant come perform the ceremony on their site. Afterwards, they had to go through a special certification/something or other to get the ceremony recognized by a practicing catholic priest – which she worked out through her parish. I’m a little hazy on the details, but maybe that’s the way it worked?
I’m sure the willingness of a parish to do something like this varies.
Post # 11
@ThingsThatShine: The tabernacle holds the eucharist, but the eucharist has to be present. Catholics believe that the consecrated host (which is the eucharist) is the physical presence of God. When there is “extra” consecrated host, it is stored in the tabernacle– you can’t just throw God in the trash! If there is host in the tabernacle, the red light is turned on (or sometimes a certain candle is lit, ours isn’t red in my church) that indicates God’s physical presence.
I’m still in the conversion process, so if any Catholics think I said something wrong, please correct me!
@atalante: Having permission after the fact is actually a convalidation (I said dispensation above but I was incorrect). Before the marriage is convalidated, it’s considered a mortal sin to have sex and the participating parties aren’t supposed to receive communion/sacraments. (The marriage is seen as invalid in the eyes of the church, therefore the people in it shouldn’t get the perks of marriage or receive communion when they’re partaking in a mortal sin.) It’s a no no for people to just have their cake and eat it, too, in terms of getting married on the beach and filling out some paperwork and going to confession so their marriage can be considered valid.
But everyone falls in various places on the religion spectrum, so some people may decide this is right for them.
Post # 12
You can have a Catholic priest perform a marriage blessing on the beach or under the tree, but the Catholic church will only recognize it as such, a blessing. You can then perform the actual marriage ceremony before or after the blessing (another day) so that your marriage will be recognized by the Catholic Church. That way you get the “ceremony on the beach with the Catholic priest”, but you also have a valid marriage in the eyes of the church.
Post # 13
@bookworm88: THAT’s the term I was looking for. Thanks. 🙂
Post # 14
My parents recently went to a wedding where the Bride and Groom where married in the Catholic church earlier in the day (I am assuming the bride was Catholic as I know the groom was not) with just family members. Afterwords they had another ceremony officianted by a Lutheran minister in which everyone was invited to which was outdoors. (the groom is lutheran) This was their way of being married in the Catholic Church (after all, like PP’s said, marriage is a sacrament and should be treated in such a way) and having their more casual outdoors wedding.
Post # 15
YES, depending on where you live.
From my Diocese’s website: “For a marriage between two Catholics the marriage is to take place in a Catholic Church or chapel. Within the Diocese of Saint Augustine outdoor weddings are not permitted between Catholics unless they take place on the sacred grounds of the Mission Nombre de Dios in St. Augustine.”
I don’t know about California, though. You’ll have to do some research and/or contact your Diocese.
Post # 16
For those saying, “yes, you can find an ex-Catholic priest,” or something along that lines… well, that would totally defeat the purpose. If a priest doesn’t marry people in union with the Catholic Church (which I suspect is what all of these ex-priests are doing,) then it’s still not a Catholic ceremony. Especially if, as one PP said, they still had to get it convalidated. (Why would you go that route if you still had the same end result as having not been having married by a Catholic priest?!)