(Closed) Can a Wedding Still Be Considered Formal with a 3pm Start Time?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

If I were going to a wedding that started before 5pm, I would not expect to dress black tie. Expecially if it were on a Monday. That said, it’s your wedding and you can do whatever you want! Personally, I would not move up the start time. I also wouldn’t ask guests to get there 30 minutes early. 

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I personally do not think a “very formal” wedding is appropriate in the afternoon. Black tie is typically reserved for evening weddings and there are a whole host of other criteria (e.g. white glove service, top shelf open bar, etc). i’m not a fan of black tie optional as it can be confusing for guests. 

 

 

 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I don’t think people will change what they plan to wear just because you made the wedding an hour earlier. That said, I wouldn’t change the time on such short notice.

Good luck today!

 

 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I think you should do whatever you want, though formal weddings are typically on weekend nights. I believe the general rule is after 6 pm for black tie.

 

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

You absolutely can have a formal, daytime wedding. However, after-six formalwear would not traditionally be worn. Instead, bridesmaids and mothers should wear street-length (i.e. short) dresses instead of long, and men should wear formal morning suits/cutaway coats and ascots instead of black or white tie. Candles are not traditionally used during the day either.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

To clarify, even black tie optional is not typical for an afternoon wedding.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@pinkeclipse:  Sure as long as people are informed of the level of formality that’s fine.  Now will the etiquitte police come knocking telling you you absolutely can’t have a black tie optional wedding before 5:47 and 32 seconds?  Probably, but honestly who cares, nobody there knows the rules and I personally think going to formal weddings is really fun.  Plus it’s nice of you to consider that most people have to work the next day and you’re giving them a nice long time to party without blowing their Tuesday.  I’d be certain to let people know very clearly that it’s formal though, I’d hate to be the one guest that didn’t get it and showed up in something casual.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Black tie isn’t done during the day, but there is a day time formal with cut away morning suitsand ladies in dresses or semi-formal with suits and ties and ladies in dresses.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I’ve been to a black tie wedding before where the ceremony started at 3pm. I’ve also been to a wedding where jeans were acceptable and that didn’t start until 6. I really don’t think it matters!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

itsyour wedding- do as you please! I vote yes to 3pm ( but im partial cuz my ceremony is at 3) and hae it end at 9. and formal is fine.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@pinkeclipse:  My start time will be 3 pm and it’s also going to be very elegant. On my wedding website I have formal attire. My bm will have on long gowns and gm tux. I will also be using candles.

 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@pinkeclipse:  Sure, but you need to inform the guests of your request because most people would dress fairly casual for a 3pm Monday wedding. 

Post # 16
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Busy bee

Well, it’s done in England! A 4pm wedding in England is the latest I’ve ever been to!

A formal wedding here can start at 1/2pm and go on until midnight.

Point being- things are going to be different wherever you are- so do what you feel happy with! 🙂

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