Read my most traumatic break up here
But I had many, many more (didnt get married until 40). Many of them were traumatic (unable to eat or sleep) and the memories lingered for years. But I have to say, all of the breakups were totally worth it. I learned so much about myself. But I also thank God that I didnt end up with any of them.
By the time DH and were dating and he broke up 5 months in, I had been through it all. I was hurt and I cried. But I stayed calm and I allowed him to work through some things. I stayed friendly, but I had an 8 week rule. If a guy breaks up with you and isn’t back within 8 weeks, time to move on. I was so strong from my previous breakups, I knew I would survive. I was lucky. He just needed some space and 4 weeks later we were back together.
My tips for getting over him:
Make a list of all the stuff you hated and drove you crazy about him. First thing to put on there- could lie to my face so easily. How can you one week say you love me and talk future and the next dump me?
Be kind to yourself. Cry if you need to, eat what feels good, drink if you have to–up to a point, give yourself permission for 2-3 months not be on a diet, etc. After you get over the acute shock, then you need to take care of yourself.
I had great revenge fantasies. I had this wonderful sucessful life and he was unhappy and married to a shrew. My revenge fantaies were epic!
Get into therapy. Use this time to learn about yourself. See if there were any signs you ignored or something your intuition picked up on.
Do something different–learn a new language or a new hobby. Take a trip with girlfriends or redecorate your house.
Good Luck! You will survive. And when the right guys comes around, I guarantee you will be 100% grateful that this guy dumped you!