Can bride give walima as groom could not afford

posted 3 years ago in Money
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

Hello there! I’m afraid that this website is not the best place to ask this question, as they have very few Muslim brides here.

As it happens, I am not a Muslim either. However, my understanding is that the more important expense is the mahar. You also don’t state which country you are from, which does make a difference.

My understanding was that one pays for whomever one invites to the walima, and that the groom generally hosts and pays because the groom is understood to be the head of the new household which is being created. HOWEVER, I do not know if this is strictly a cultural tradition, or if it is an Islamic, religious tradition. You would be better to ask on a more specialised website.

I did find this thread. Perhaps it will help you: http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?240336-Are-men-expected-to-pay-for-wedding-in-Islam

The walima doesn’t have to be anything big or fancy. Also, technically, if the bride’s family pays, what differentiates walima from rukasati? I don’t know the answer to that question. Just throwing it out there!

Hope you can solve this problem and sorry I couldn’t be of more assistance.

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