Post # 1
It’s really important to me that my three bridesmaids wear dresses that they feel comfortable in and that they’ll wear again. It’s not an inexpensive purchase, and none of them is exactly rolling in money.
I gave them a retailer, a color, and some suggested styles, and said that if they found something else that they felt they liked better, that they should let me know.
So far, two of the three have purchased their dresses, and both of them had thought they wanted one dress but ultimately decided on another. They both asked for my thoughts and I told them that both of their alternate choices were fine.
Two of the dresses chosen are chiffon. One of the atlernate purchases was satin. All the same color. All different styles.
Now, until about 30 minutes ago, I didn’t care about the difference. However, I tuned in to David Tutera just long enough to hear him say that it’s a big no-no to have bridesmaids dress of a different fabric. My first thought was ACK! My second thought? Who is going to notice, and furthermore, who is going to care?
Mind, I am very much not the type of person who generally cares about things like this. My mission here is to get married to an awesome guy in front of our family and friends, and not to have everything on this one day be perfect. So, that said, two questions:
1. Would you care?
2. Would you bother to ask the satin girl to return her dress for something in chiffon? Would you after you already gave her your approval?
Post # 3
I would have specified the type of fabric because the color could vary slightly with different ones and one is more shiny. But that’s just me. If you think they look fine together that’s all that matters. As for asking her to return the satin one…I think if you really want them to all be the same then it’s ok as long as she can return it. Some places you can’t just return them.
Post # 4
I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man at the wedding where I was the only one in a chiffon dress. The other Bridesmaid or Best Man and the Maid/Matron of Honor had both chosen satin dresses. At the time I didn’t even think twice about it but it was a different story when I saw the pictures.
Like SummerGirl said, it really depends on you. It’s not a big deal but for me I would prefer they choose the same fabric. That being said, I would never force one of my BMs in a dress they are less comfortable wearing for the sake of a good picture.
Post # 5
I totally wouldn’t care.
I kinda want to tell David Tutera to chill out.
Post # 6
My girls are wearing different dresses, different fabric, all of the similar color see picture below). I was a bit surprised, but it looks really good. It really just depends on you and what you prefer.
Post # 7
I really like your color. I love all of those different dresses and fabrics together!
Post # 8
Thanks Stewie! Got them at Nordstrom’s, all less than $100.
Post # 9
Don’t get me wrong, David Tutera does some beautiful work, but in some respects he’s all about the just add water wedding… notice that most of his weddings look the same. Having your girls in different colors and/or fabrics is a great way to showcase their unique personalities! When Jenna Bush got married her colors were the different shades of Texas Cornflowers. So her bridesmaids were dressed in shades from a rich dark blue to berry tones and they were all in different styles. Wedding planning is stressful enough without worrying about what someone else deems appropriate or not. If you’re happy with what your girls are wearing, and they’re happy with their purchases, check that off on your list and move on to the next item at hand. Check out this link. It shows the sketches of Jenna’s bridesmaid dresses that were made by Lela Rose.
Post # 10
I told my girls to pick a black dress in a style, designer and price point of their choosing. So I’m with you – different fabric? Whatever! I’m just not enough of a perfectionist to care if their dresses reflect the light differently in photos; in fact, I think I prefer it because it looks more realistic. So as long as you’re not a stickler for having your bridesmaids’ dresses looking pretty much the same in photos (and it doesn’t sound like you are) then you should be fine.
Post # 11
We’re doing the same for our wedding. I think it will look amazing and my bridesmaids will feel great about the way they look. The most important thing is that you are marrying your best friend!!!
Post # 12
The last wedding I was in was like @teaparty’s, we each wore a black dress of our choosing. I haven’t seen the pro pictures yet, but it looked just fine on the day. Each reflected our personality, so it worked really well.
Don’t take a tv host too much to heart – if you think they look fine, they look fine.
Post # 13
It really depends on the shade. In general, I think there is nothing wrong w/ it, but I told my Bridesmaid or Best Man no, bc the light green chiffon looked very different than the light green satin. Have you compared the swatches?
I think the darker the color, the easier it is to pull off. Regardless, if you are OK w/ it, then it doesn’t matter!
Post # 14
i think it’s fine as long as the colors match.
Post # 15
Ladies, thanks so much. I appreciate everyone’s input.
When I was envisioning my wedding, I never could picture my bridesmaids all looking like they all stepped out of the same cookie cutter. I’m really glad I decided to take this route. It was my first gut instinct. I really wanted their uniquenesses reflected. And I really wanted them to love their dresses.
The color is apple, and they’re from David’s Bridal. (Wish I’d known Nordstrom sold bridesmaid-y dresses!) And all together, they’ll look like this, which I think looks pretty nice.
This discussion is a big reminder to me to keep my focus on my vision. Wedding planning is so much more enjoyable that way…
Post # 16
Update: I passed a David’s today and snuck in, and lined up my three chosen dresses. One was crinkle chiffon, one was regular chiffon, and one was satin. I think with the three very different fabrics, it works. If two were similar and one stuck out, then I’d be less jazzed. But I’m content. And they’re content. So it’s all good.
Thanks again for everyone’s input.