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You haven't lost your mind :) it's pretty common to just want to "start" your life. I swear theres something in women where its like unless you have a,b & c you're missing out. It's lame & that female guilt has gotta go away lol.
I was the same way when I finished school.. like what now?? Where do I go? I had the same issues... I just wanted to move forward & move on. It took a few years to find my path... remain patient!
Everything will happen when the time is right :)
My fiance has had baby fever for forever it seems, but especially since he has been deployed (which is kind of silly because it's not like we can do anything about it 9,000 miles apart hehe).
Anyways, I have always been the one who is like "No baby, we have to wait until we are married blah blah." which I still feel that way but I guess I am ready to have one once we are married maybe because apparantly the other night while I was out and checked my phone someone commented on one of his pictures on Facebook about what a great daddy he will be and I was a little tipsy 
and wrote under it "Oh yeah he can't wait to have a baby. But shhh, don't tell him I can't wait either!"
Damn iPhone and their Facebook app! 
So yeah, it is totally normal to start getting those kind of feelings or even to get them then they go away and come back and so on. You're getting married girl so you know your hormones are going all crazy haha.
I's normal. I think about it a lot. I had a scare a few months ago and was a little disappointed when I found out it was negative. It's just our female hormones. I also have been around a lot of babies and toddlers so it's REALLY hard to want to wait. haha.
Thanks guys. I thought I was crazy, especially since I'm worried I am like right.at.this.moment. It's like the rational part of my brain is gone. I know it's not the right time, but my heart wants it anyway.
*sigh*
Thanks for listening!
I think I've started thinking about it seriously, knowing we're going to wait at least three or four years until we start trying after getting married. It's hard not to! It feels like everything is falling into place--you get into that groove where you've found "the one," you're getting married and having your own family... then you feel like you gotta have people to be in that new family! :)
FI and I had a scare about 8 months and while it wasn't the right time at all, when it turned out I wasn't I actually cried. I think it's hard not to get excited about it and totally natural for part of you to want it even if it's not the right time.
It's normal - FI and I are dying to have a baby but we are waiting until after the wedding first!
We actually had a 'scare' at the beginning of the summer and we were both disappointed when it eventually came up negative!
It will happen when it is meant to happen - whether that be now or in a couple years!
@ His Barista- Yeah, we're going through a scare right now and go between wanting a positive to my rational brain coming and wanting a negative.lol
@cinemaparadiso- So true. Before I met him, kids were the FARTHEST thing from my mind.LOL Now, I want 3 kids! It's that man.lol
@FurtureMrsTal- Thanks for saying it's natural, even if it's not the right time. I didn't even talk to my sister about it because she would have shook me and asked where's my head.lol
@FutureMrsMartin- It will happen when it's supposed to happen. I definately needed to read that!
I get jealous too.
Friends have babies, and I don't. I don't need or have time for a baby right now, yet I'm still SO JEALOUS of them. Especially when they tell me it'll happen when it's supposed to happen, or when God wants it to. (It probably won't, 'cause I have an IUD to prevent that very thing...)
I always loved the Gwen Stephani line, "Sometimes I wished for a mistake..."
I think there is a strong biological and emotional imperative to have children... I think it's really normal to have mixed emotions when it comes to a negative (or positive for that matter) test. The best thing you can do is to be happy for your friend and put one foot in front of the other until you reach your goals... and know that what you are feeling is really normal and ok!
It is definatly normal! We are weird creatures if you haven't figured that out yet! I know that we are not ready for children yet; however we both love kids & talk about how we will raise ours someday & names we like. It's actually kinda corny but we do. Ha
& MaryJane; My best friend got pregnant on the IUD.... So you never know when your time is.....
I really think that something kicks in that makes you want a kid even though every rational thought in your head tells you that it's not the right time. I find myself wanting a baby all the time but I rationally don't want one yet... it's so hard.
I know how you feel about just wanting to have achieved certain things like NOW. I feel the same a lot but I try to tell myself to enjoy where I am right now in my life. I'd hate to "wish my life away" as my Mom puts it! I think the movie "Click" does a good job of showing this.
Totally normal!
I have always been the one to want to wait to get married and wait to have a baby. I love being young and free with no baby responsibilities. But deep down, I am really excited to be pregnant and move on to that next stage in life. Now, we are not going to have a baby for a few years, but I think a lot of women have those same feelings and thoughts (as you can see with all the posts) :)
I'm there too. A few months ago my monthly visitor was waaaayyy late and I started freaking out. But when it showed up, I was surprisingly bummed. It'd be horrible timing right now but I still got the fever!
I know what you mean too, I'm so ready to get married and have babies. Went through that whole scare thing too a couple months ago, and was surprisingly disappointed when it was negative. I've never wanted someone else's kid the way I want to make little Kelly's. :o) But as for all of us everything will happen when the timing is right.
Maryjane- Yeah, my sister tells me I have time. She's the only one I have told about my need to have a baby like, yesterday!LOL She's right though.
Mrs.DG- I like that line. I wish for a mistake in my birth control sometimes, but I know it's not the right thing. I am so excited for her and already hope it's a girl, so I can buy cute little dresses and stuff. 
Kitkat555- We have names too, although he shot down all of the ones I like.LOL. He wants 4, I want two. I wouldnt be surprised if he tried to sneak in at least 6.
Daisybride- My mom says the same thing, stop wishing your life away. LOL. I try not to, I just get excited and want it already. I'm not very patient.
Littlebear- I feel the same way. I am just like no baby until we are married, I swear I said to him on our first date,lol, but my baby mind gets the best of me sometimes.
hcritton- I dont know where this fever comes from, but I have to agree it must be something biological, with all of us suffering from it on some level.lol
Oh yeah. I know the feeling! I'm dying to get out of school and get married and move on with my life. Rationality is still stronger in the baby respect, but those biological drives are getting stronger and stronger and stronger. I burst into tears when I see wedding albums posted on FB...it's just sad, haha. And in the past six months alone, my SO's friends and coworkers all started to get pregnant, including his brother's new wife, my sister, an ex-coworker, his best friend and his wife, two or three other couples from work....ugh! Frustration! It's not like me to be jealous all the time, but my SO and I feel like we're stuck in neutral while everyone else moves on with their lives. What makes it even suckier is that there's an eight year age difference between us, so he'll be well into his thirties when I'm ready to have kids.
Good things come to those who wait...right? Right?! I mean, that's what I told myself when I got out of my last awful relationship, and as soon as I decided I was happy being single, The One shows up. That's what I tell myself while I'm waiting for an e-ring too.
So. Flipping. Tired. Of. Waiting. GAH.
WOW, it is so interesting to see that a lot of us are really alike. My now hubby has had baby fever for a while now but I definitely wanted to wait until we were married and then it would be fair game.
I have to tell you how "right" it all feels after being married. It's a strange feeling to know that it is OK to have sex (or make love) and definitely OK to have babies. It must be my Catholic upbringing that is creeping out, lol.
Anyway, we are both going through baby fever right now but we haven't had the luck yet. We recently had a negative test and we were both disappointed. The only time we had a scare, I was so happy to that it came out negative. It just wasn't the right time for me, for us.
In short, it is completely normal to feel the way you do. I wonder does any other newlywed have that "right" feeling once you became married?
PS: I have had the baby fever since our nephew was born a week before our wedding and even worse when I found out that my college ex and his wife had their first baby yesterday.... I want that to be me :)
Minutiae-Yep, I'm never one to get jealous either. But the baby aspect, especially with a close friend, I just went bezerk. So I'm helping it by looking at cute stuff to get the baby when the holidays come and the sales are on.
I'm a bargain shopper. Hopefully she'll know the sex by then.
Roddybride09- I totally understand the waiting til marriage part. I talked to my sister about it and admitted how I felt and she just reminded me that they aren't married and she knows I really don't want to have a baby that way, even though my heart is still telling me I want one,NOW. If it happened, I'd still be happy, but I know how I want things to go.
Sometimes you just have to tell your heart to shut up and go look at baby stuff to get for your friend to get some of the urge out.LOL
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I'm jealous.
But NOT for the reason you think.
My friend and I have been worried we are both pregnant. SO not good for either of us, but especially me, since I'm currently unemployed. :(
Anyhoo, she tested today and got a positive, but is still going to the doctor to be sure. She's going to tell her boyfriend tonight and they'll discuss what they'll do next.
The thing is. I'm jealous. I REALLY hate to admit that, especially since I don't need to be pregnant (and still waiting on my answer!) but I am.
I just want to be married, have a baby and use my dang degrees already. I think I'm going crazy.
Have I lost my mind??? Bless my heart y'all!