(Closed) Can I admit this here ladies?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

You haven’t lost your mind πŸ™‚ it’s pretty common to just want to “start” your life. I swear theres something in women where its like unless you have a,b & c you’re missing out. It’s lame & that female guilt has gotta go away lol.

I was the same way when I finished school.. like what now?? Where do I go? I had  the same issues… I just wanted to move forward & move on. It took a few years to find my path… remain patient!

Everything will happen when the time is right πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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Helper bee

My fiance has had baby fever for forever it seems, but especially since he has been deployed (which is kind of silly because it’s not like we can do anything about it 9,000 miles apart hehe).

Anyways, I have always been the one who is like “No baby, we have to wait until we are married blah blah.” which I still feel that way but I guess I am ready to have one once we are married maybe because apparantly the other night while I was out and checked my phone someone commented on one of his pictures on Facebook about what a great daddy he will be and I was a little tipsy Wink and wrote under it “Oh yeah he can’t wait to have a baby. But shhh, don’t tell him I can’t wait either!”

Damn iPhone and their Facebook app! Embarassed

So yeah, it is totally normal to start getting those kind of feelings or even to get them then they go away and come back and so on. You’re getting married girl so you know your hormones are going all crazy haha.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’s normal. I think about it a lot. I had a scare a few months ago and was a little disappointed when I found out it was negative. It’s just our female hormones. I also have been around a lot of babies and toddlers so it’s REALLY hard to want to wait. haha.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I think I’ve started thinking about it seriously, knowing we’re going to wait at least three or four years until we start trying after getting married. It’s hard not to! It feels like everything is falling into place–you get into that groove where you’ve found “the one,” you’re getting married and having your own family… then you feel like you gotta have people to be in that new family! πŸ™‚

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

FI and I had a scare about 8 months and while it wasn’t the right time at all, when it turned out I wasn’t I actually cried. I think it’s hard not to get excited about it and totally natural for part of you to want it even if it’s not the right time.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

It’s normal – FI and I are dying to have a baby but we are waiting until after the wedding first!

We actually had a ‘scare’ at the beginning of the summer and we were both disappointed when it eventually came up negative!

It will happen when it is meant to happen – whether that be now or in a couple years!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

I get jealous too.

Friends have babies, and I don’t. I don’t need or have time for a baby right now, yet I’m still SO JEALOUS of them. Especially when they tell me it’ll happen when it’s supposed to happen, or when God wants it to. (It probably won’t, ’cause I have an IUD to prevent that very thing…)

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

I always loved the Gwen Stephani line, “Sometimes I wished for a mistake…”

I think there is a strong biological and emotional imperative to have children… I think it’s really normal to have mixed emotions when it comes to a negative (or positive for that matter) test.  The best thing you can do is to be happy for your friend and put one foot in front of the other until you reach your goals… and know that what you are feeling is really normal and ok!

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

It is definatly normal! We are weird creatures if you haven’t figured that out yet! I know that we are not ready for children yet; however we both love kids & talk about how we will raise ours someday & names we like. It’s actually kinda corny but we do. Ha

 & MaryJane; My best friend got pregnant on the IUD…. So you never know when your time is…..

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I really think that something kicks in that makes you want a kid even though every rational thought in your head tells you that it’s not the right time.  I find myself wanting a baby all the time but I rationally don’t want one yet… it’s so hard.

I know how you feel about just wanting to have achieved certain things like NOW.  I feel the same a lot but I try to tell myself to enjoy where I am right now in my life.  I’d hate to “wish my life away” as my Mom puts it!  I think the movie “Click” does a good job of showing this.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Totally normal!
I have always been the one to want to wait to get married and wait to have a baby. I love being young and free with no baby responsibilities. But deep down, I am really excited to be pregnant and move on to that next stage in life. Now, we are not going to have a baby for a few years, but I think a lot of women have those same feelings and thoughts (as you can see with all the posts) πŸ™‚

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