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Can I ask a Christian pastor to perform wedding at secular location?

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    hgfhband06    October 13, 2012  

    I am Lutheran and my fiance is Catholic. Though neither of our parents are very strict, we found it best to hold our ceremony at our reception location. With a chapel on site, we have to find an officiant to conduct the wedding.

    Would it be appropriate at all to ask a Christian pastor I know to conduct the wedding off-site at this chapel? Or is this usually frowned upon? I don't want to offend anyone, but I thought I would ask a pastor I know before an officiant who is a complete stranger.

    Thoughts?

     

     
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    Soladylike       Tennessee

    @hgfhband06: I don't think it would be frowned upon. My pastor would marry me anywhere. However, he is very laid back.

     
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    2ndtime    April 16, 2011  

    The religion lies within the individuals not withing the building.  So yes, a Christian pastor can marry you at a secular site.  A Christian pastor married us in our living room.  A Christian pastor married our friends at the lake.  It is totally okay!

     
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    Elliemae27    June 15, 2013  

    @hgfhband06: No harm in asking! Don't use an officiant you're afraid to offend.

     
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    redheadem    September 30, 2012   NYC/MD

    I think that shoud be ok to ask. I think only Catholics aren't allowed to get married outside of the church, but if you're not having a Catholic wedding, it will be ok.

     
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    eliwhit    March 12, 2011   Ohio

    I don't think it would be a problem unless you were doing a Catholic wedding. I got married in a museum by a pastor.

     
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    TheMrs2013    June 8, 2013   NH

    I wouldn't think it would be a problem.

     
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    Brielle    May 22, 2009  

    DH and I are both very strong Christians, and our wedding was very focused on Christ. My Assembly of God pastor had no problem at all marrying us outside at a gorgeous mansion.

     
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    Angelz_love    June 16, 2012   San Francisco

    Even if it were Catholic, a decon and I THINK a priest will marry you anywhere so long as you have a quick ceremony in the church first. That's what my sis did. her decon married them in a winery but they went to a mass first a couple of weeks before.

     
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    furtureffcaptwife    July 28, 2012   Texas

    Absolutely!  I am having my preacher do my ceremony which will be held at the Conference Center in my town.  There is nothing wrong with it!

     
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    dancing.angela    August 2012   Seattle, WA

    I'd say go ahead and ask him, it can't hurt. 

    I would ask my Pastor to marry my fiance and I but he's expressed for years that he doesn't like doing weddings so I wouldn't put him in that spot.  My brother is very religious and training to be a Pastor so we originally asked him, however he recently changed his mind and said that we would have to abide by his church rules, Mars Hill, which is not my style of Christianity.  It can't be worse than having your brother say he does not feel comfortable performing your wedding. 

    Best wishes for a smooth and stress free wedding day!!!

     
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    lovebugfouts    August 18, 2012   St Louis (Wedding in Santa Monica)

    My fiance is a Lutheran pastor and it would be fine for him... It really depends on the person.

     

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