Post # 1
So I am a Weddingbee Newbee and this is my first time posting anywhere so please bear with me. I am newly engaged and I was trying to decide who I wanted to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. I have a friend that is pretty close but she is EXTREMELY unreliable and I can’t count on her to always be around when I would need help or an opinion. However I do have another friend who isn’t super close but it is one of the best friendships I have had. She is very reliable and I know she would be willing to help me but my fear is she will say no if I ask her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor because we aren’t super close. I know its not the type of person she is just to say no but I don’t want her to feel obligated in any way.
Is it ok to ask someone who isn’t your best friend? Has anyone ever had anyone say no because they weren’t close enough friends?
My other friend understands and I don’t think she really wants to be part of the wedding anyway.
Post # 3
First, congrats on your engagement!! Second, many people suggest waiting until less than a year away from your wedding to select a wedding party. This way you have some time to enjoy being engaged, and you’ll soon learn which friends are naturally supportive of you. People change, relationships change, and unfortunately weddings bring out the crazy in everyone. Don’t stress about this decision too soon! Everything will probably fall into place and your decision will be MUCH easier 🙂
Post # 4
If you feel awkward asking her, you don’t need a maid of honor. You can have all your friends be bridesmaids.
Post # 5
@JazzyGirl: I don’t feel akward just nervous I am not used to being the one having to ask people for favors. Honestly the two girls that I mentioned are basicly my only two friends.
@DaneLady Thank you. As far as waiting she is a teacher and I know being in a wedding is financially demanding and time consuming so I want to give plenty of to meet and save. The date I have is tenative it could happen sooner or later depending on the Venues avaliability so I would rather be early then rushing in the end.
Post # 6
@JazzyGirl: completely agree. You don’t need a Maid/Matron of Honor.
Post # 7
@Klein2bReidy: Is it ok to ask someone who isn’t your best friend? Has anyone ever had anyone say no because they weren’t close enough friends?
Yes. It is totally ok. Do what is in your heart. Go with the person you think will be the most sincerely happy for you and supportive of you. If she says no, she says no, but at least you will have asked.
Congratulations and good luck!
Post # 8
I think it would be totally okay. You obviously really like this other friend and maybe this will bring you even closer.
Post # 9
So I wanted to give you guys an update I am glad I asked her this early in the game because she really appreciated that and she said yes. She even cried which made me cry. She is so happy and excited which makes me more happy and excited as well. Thank you for all of the wonderful advice and reassurance.
Post # 10
@Klein2bReidy: Awwww that’s super sweet!