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Can I ask people this?? or is it too tacky

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    missplanner    May 1, 2010   Biloxi

    Ok I'm TRYING to trim the budget were it's not fixed. That would be food and drinks. Now I am wondering if it's possible to ask guest if they drink wine? If they prefer this type of drink I can save a ton of money. The reason being...

    I have the option of per consumption or per person at my hotel . If I know a fair amount of people will be ok will drinking wine I can have bottles of white and red wine set on the table. People can still order drinks from the bar but I think that it lower my consuption level. Making it a cheaper way to go since it's $85 per person paying for the other way. Is this tacky to do? This would allow me to focus more on the food. Is this tacky to ask friends when I talk to them? Not like they locked into drinking wine all night !!

    I know I'm taking a huge gamble either way since the crowd all party people !

     
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    Future Mrs. Martin    August 21, 2010   London Ontario Canada

    This is fairly common practice at weddings. 

    And you can actually close the bar during dinner so that they will not be up and down a lot and will drink the wine that is on the tables.

     

     
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    Ms. Caniche    September 18, 2010   Orange County, CA

    I am offering Beer, Wine and Champagne only at my wedding.  There will be no hard alcohol... period.

    So I dont think that it is bad that you only serve wine.

     
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    Gerbera    August 7, 2010   NY

    ....I am a bit confused about what you're exactly trying to do......

    If you are trying to trim the budget and still provide alcohol. I would just go with either liquor or wine and just leave it at that. They will live.
    But I wouldn't go to the extent of asking them.

     
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    Miss Chapstick    September 2009  

    I wouldn't ask anyone, just simply make the choice to serve beer and wine only. As others are saying, this is common, and people won't think twice about it.

     
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    I'm thinking I would go ahead with your plan, but not bother to ask people. 

     
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    missplanner    May 1, 2010   Biloxi

    OHhhh I didnt even think of just closing the bar during dinner so they can only drink the wine. That would for sure help cut cost...I will for sure ask my hotel planner about this when we talk next month.

    I dont want to make them only drink that. Not all people like wine. I was just trying to figure out ways to save some money since my budget becomg Bridazilla not ME !!

    Ps I can get bottles for 35-50 bottles compared to 8-15 a drink is why I was trying to see how many ppl would be ok with wine naturally.

     
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    Melissabegins    December 12, 2009  

    I'd close the bar til after dinner and just put the wine out for people if that'd lower your costs. That's not an unsual thing at all. Plus if you open the bar afterward people get all excited, vs having it be open the whole time. I dont know why but I find it's true!

     
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    Yeah, I say close the bar during dinner, definitely!

     
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    KIKI82    October 30, 2010   SoCal

    I really do not think you need to ask your guests this question because it is really up to you. If I were a guest at a wedding I would be happy with wine. It's nice of you to consider their taste but when it comes to alcohol a lot of people host none at all so just wine is fine. Or maybe you can do beer and wine? Mixed drinks are usually the most expensive.

     
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    missplanner    May 1, 2010   Biloxi

    So wine with Hors d'oeuvres and dinner. Afterwards open full bar?

     
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    Marinara    08/14/2010   San Francisco, CA

    I agree that whatever you decide, you should not ask your guests!  Also, it's common to have a wine-only reception, so if PART of your reception is wine-only, you're totally fine!  Good luck!

     
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    moderndaisy    June 2010  

    Well, my alcohol package is red and white wine served at dinner, but the bar is still technically open so they can go get a different drink if they want. There will be open bar during cocktail hour, before and after dinner, but it makes sense to only serve wine during dinner so people slow down and there's less chaos.

     
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    hermitcrab    June 2010   NYC

    I think maybe open bar during cocktail hour too, just not during dinner - but I don't think you need to bother asking people, either

     
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    krissycake    November 21, 2009   orlando,fl

    If you're thinking about budget but worried about etiquette, just serve beer and wine.  We did this and it worked out great - if you are switching back and forth, it may confuse people and cause drama if they first got a drink for free, then when they go back, they have to pay for it.

     
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    missplanner    May 1, 2010   Biloxi

    After talking to FI we decided to go the wine and beer route..If they want something else they can pay for it themselves. I'm sure we'll all go out partying after the reception anyways.

     
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    owlbride    October 10, 2009   Houston

    I'd also suggest not putting bottles on the table if your venue will serve the wine. There may be tables that only drink the red, or only drink the white, or don't finish off the bottles. If your venue is charging by the bottle, then you'll be charged for every open bottle - including ones sitting on tables that may go untouched.

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    We were not going to do anything other than beer, wine, and soda to save money but we ended up having a full bar because we had a minimum to meet!

     
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    Several weddings I have been to served only beer & wine & soda and nobody noticed! We got lucky, our venue (a restaurant) is charging the same for open bar vs beer/wine/soda only. 

     
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    Sulli301    June 26, 2010   Michigan

    A lot of people have just wine and beer. If you want you could add a signature cocktail and only offer THAT type of liquored drink

     
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    shannon1126    August 21, 2010   Washington, Wedding in Vegas

    We are thinking of having a signature drink to serve during the cocktail hour, providing wine or tea and soft drinks with the meal, a champagne toast and then after the meal its a cash bar. We didnt want a bunch of drunk people during the meal and we knew if we had an open bar they would be throwing them back during the cocktail hour. We are also having a lunch reception and therefore we dont feel so obligated to provide our guests with an open bar. 

     
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    MissBitsPieces    January 1990  

    We have a secret cash bar.  Our reception is at the restaurant where we had our first date, and they have a bar.  We aren't including alcohol as part of the reception, but we said if someone asks them out of the blue to make a drink they don't have to say no, but the guest does have to pay.  No one in our family or friends really care about drinking, so we aren't saying one way or another about alcohol.  Totallly their own choice haha.

     

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