- 3 years ago
I’m pretty quiet and shy around almost everyone except my SO and immediate family. I used to think I was introverted until I recently reread the definition. I was wrong! I actually love the company of people and having conversations about almost anything. I love getting dressed up and going to parties or learning something new.
I’m an extrovert trapped in an introvert’s body.
For as long as I can remember I’m usually the girl in the corner playing with her hair, jewelry or fumbling with her thumbs feeling like I don’t know how to behave around others. Over the years I have tried to become more comfortable with who I am but can’t seem to figure out how to socialize. I always wonder what small talk is like or which conversation started a life long friendship.
How do I start a conversation with someone at a party that I know nothing about? How do I add a comment to an ongoing conversation without cutting off the person talking but saying something before the next person? It seems like everyone I know can be so charming and always know what to say and when to say it but I’m always drawing a blank. Sometimes it feels like I’m playing 20 questions and interviewing someone rather than having an interesting two way conversation. Anyone feel like this? How did you become more social? I hate feeling like a weirdo that can’t relate to anyone.