Post # 1
I already have my wedding dress, and I love love love it. While browsing some wedding blogs, though, I found a picture of a bride from a casual rustic chic wedding, who had on a fabulous poufy knee length lace dress. After doing some digging, I found out the dress is a designer prom dress from a few years back that’s no longer being made. However, I did find a seller on e-bay that’s offering the dress for ~$90, but they list “more than 10 available” and are based out of Hong Kong. I really adore this dress, but I’m trying to figure out when to wear it. I don’t want to wear two dresses on my wedding day, because I adore my actual gown too much. So the most logical option would be for the rehersal dinner, but we’re doing super casual – either a deep dish pizza party or a bbq/pig roast in a park. Either way, a lace dress is going to be way fancier than anything any of the guests are wearing.
I guess I have two questions. The first is would it be weird for me to be way more dressed up than my guests? I don’t want them to feel uncomfortable, but I think if it’s a casual venue and everybody else is dressed casual but me, it’ll be clear that I chose to overdress, and they didn’t accidentally underdress or something… The second question is that since the dress is out of production, and being sold in mass on ebay from Hong Kong, I feel like there’s a good chance it’s a knockoff being mass produced there. I don’t think I have a moral issue with this, since the dress hasn’t been made for years, so it’s not like I have the option of going into a boutique and buying it from the designer for full price. But I am concerned about the quality / getting scammed. Has anyone bought a dress like that before? Have you been happy with how it turned out?
Post # 3
That is a really tough call. I would kinda say that you don’t want to make your guests feel uncomfortable if you are super dressed up but it is your day and you should kinda be seen. Can you post a picture of the dress?
Post # 4
Good point caszos, pictures would be helpful 🙂 These are from oncewed.
This is the best one I could find of the dress overall (the sash would be burgundy)
And here’s the picture that really made me love it:
I just love the way it flounces out when she sits down!
So now seeing the dress, do you think it’d be out of place at a bbq or deep dish pizza place?
Post # 5
Oh that IS cute. But I probably wouldn’t buy it. I am so reluctant to buy anything from overseas, for a number of reasons. Barring any crazy stuff like sweat shops or illegal stuff, still, if the event is really casual, you should probably be casual too. I am also really sensitive to spending more money than needed (probably because I’m so broke I want to cry lol). But if you insist on having the dress, can you wear it as the ‘going off’ dress? If you’re leaving the reception to go wherever else, you can change into it right before you go, it would be a cool photo opp.
Post # 6
I plan on being over dressed for my rehersal dinner. I figure I’m the bride and I should be dressed nicely and if I happen to be overdressed, no big deal.
I probably wouldn’t buy a dress on ebay from Hong Kong, but that is just me.
Post # 7
Its so cute! Can you get it in another color? Maybe it will look more casual then?
A friend of mine last year ordered her dress from someone in HK via ebay last year, sent in her measurements, it was complete lace, sweetheart neckline, strapless and a train and it was STUNNING. Also? Just $160. I say go for it!
Post # 8
i was more dressed up than my guests. it was at my inlaw’s house, we told everyone jeans, but there was no way i was wearing jeans to my rd! i wore a sun dress. as long as your comfortable, that’s all that matters.
Post # 9
I just have to say that I love that dress. I would totally wear it to a pizza parlor. lol. You are the bride so you are allowed to dress up more than everybody else. As far as ordering from Hong Kong, I would check their ebay feedback and if it is good then I would think you will be okay.
Post # 10
i would do it- its your day! you only get to do it once, so why not? just be careful with the hong kong thing…. my friend ordered stuff from China and it was such poor quality and didnt look like the pictures at all….. that being said it wasnt off ebay though… pretty sure ebay is pretty good about stuff like that and prob mnore legit to go trhough.
Post # 11
Buy it and wear it! It’s cheap and gorgeous. But not sure about the rehearsal dinner. How about to the bachelorette? Or the honeymoon romantic dinner? Or somewhere else fun?
Post # 12
Can you wear it to your bachelorette party? A friend wore a white dress to her bach party and all the girls wore black dresses.
Post # 13
Wow, that’s a really cute dress. I think you should go for it. You’re the bride anyway and maybe you want to practice walking down the isle in a white dress. 😛 I don’t think any of your guests will feel uncomfortable because of it.
Post # 14
Love it! And I’m totally going to be dressed up for anything and everything that involves the wedding and FI will be in jeans and a tshirt and sneakers! LOL
Post # 15
Our rehearsal dinner is cocktail attire at a really nice restaurant and I’m wearing a romona keveza mermaid gown in light pink (I got for 85% off from a salon that was closing). I will clearly be the only person in a gown. But whatever! So you have my vote for dressing up!
Buying from the seller on ebay, however, hmmm. Hard to say. Maybe keep looking to see if you can find something more legit (like someone selling their prom dress?). Good luck!
Post # 16
I like the dress. Maybe you could tell your bridesmaids and other female members of your family to wear dresses too. I wore a dress to my rehearsal dinner. So did a lot of other people. But then I also had a BM who wore jeans and a t-shirt. And some other family members who were wearing jeans and screen printed t-shirts. So we definitely had all ranges of the spectrum. I think you are the bride, and if anyone can be dressed up it’s you! Dressing up made me feel great on my rehearsal dinner and got me excited for the whole weekend.
As for getting a dress from ebay, I don’t know how that would go. How are the seller’s ratings? That’s what I would look at to determine if it would be a safe route.