Can I Buy The Same Dress?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Can I buy the same gown as my friend if there are only 2 overlapping guests and it's a year after?
    Do it! It's your day! : (235 votes)
    82 %
    No, it wouldn't be right. Keep looking. : (52 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Woops I voted wrong… I meant to say yes. If she has no problem go for it! In the end your accessories, hair and makeup, nad of course YOU will all be different!

    Post # 4
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    No bride owns the right to a dress. If you want to wear it, you don’t need her permission.

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @cas1984:  it’s sticky, but i think it’s ok! if she actually she minded she should have told you, and if she harbors any ill will it’s sort of her fault, and she should have said something when she had the chance. it was good of you to ask.

    if it will be on your mind at all on your day, don’t get it. it wouldn’t be worth any distraction or stress. if you’re worried about it but REALLY want it, get it and just change up hair/makeup/accessories/veil.

     

    Post # 6
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    perhaps with alterations you can make the neckline a little different, add a different belt, do a different bustle… basically you would have the same “base” dress, but all the little things that are different will add up and you can make it your own, and it would be different enough from your friend’s dress that no one would notice.

    I think if its the perfect dress, and your friend has given you her blessings, go for it! 🙂

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @cas1984:  It’s really up to you.  It’s nice that you asked what she thought, but she seems to be okay with it.  Also, you’ll most likely have different accessories which can change the look of the dress anyway.

    Post # 8
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    It wasn’t like you picked it BECAUSE it was her dress–I say it’s fine!

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

    agree with PP’s since she said she’s fine with it as long as you really do make an effort to accessorize differently then it should be fine!

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

    It doesn’t seem like anyone would really be there to even notice! I say go ahead.

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club

    If I was her, I would be excited that you picked the same dress. 🙂
    Do it!

    Post # 12
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    9919 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @cas1984:  If your wedding was before hers I’d say no but seeing as you’re coming after who cares!

    Post # 13
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    It sounds like she’s fine with it. And your wedding is a year after, hardly any repeat guests, I think it’s totally ok. 

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I think you should definitely buy it if you love if!  The same dress may look different on you guys, especially one alterations are done!  You can always do something like add a sash to change it up a little if you want.  If she says that she’s ok with it then I’m sure she is…i wouldn’t worry about it.  Especially since your weddings are a year apart.

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @cas1984:  chances are she really jsut wants you to feel like a beautiful bride i dont think she tell you it was ok if it wasn’t 

     

    she sounds ez going about it now if half the guest list was the same and it was in the same time frame that would be a whole other story but form what you said i don’t see it was problem 

     

    you will wear it different too everything for accessoires to hair veil can totally change the look i would not worry if she gave you the ok and its so far in time and hardly anyone will see you both in it just enjoy she gave you the go ahead and get the dress 

     

    after all really you are just complementing her taste plus i dont know what kinda friends you are but i have 2 friends you could let us loose in the same store different times and we will come out and have bought the same things… if you are like that then i can so see why she is being ez going about it … if it was me and either of those girls bought the same dress with your timing and guest list i be just like her chill b.c. she loves you and knows its both your taste and wants you to have a wonderful wedding not be sad or bitter about the dress that could and should have been 

    Post # 16
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I know this is petty but I would tell my friend ooo ya definately..and secretly be a little jealous and sad. I think it would be better to be original. However if this friend is more mature then me haha then I think it would be fine.

     

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